@laurie4321 Nope, I’m sorry to tell you but… you do not get any of those luxuries, hire the babysitter
three is THE WORST. Everything you say is what I’m going through right now too. I have a 3.5yo and a newborn. Everyone asks me about how hard it must be to deal with the new baby not sleeping through the night and I l like, “um at least I don’t have to carry her out of the frozen food aisle because she wants a popsicle and is trying to tip over the grocery cart while screaming” I will choose baby spitups and blowouts every time
. They know what they want now and can communicate it but don’t get understand why the world doesn’t cater itself to them. It’s awful.
My only advice: choose your battles. He melts down about PJs? Let him pick them out himself or whatever it might that he wants. Worst case, he sleeps in his clothes or undies, which is not going to kill him. Plan a car ride each day of the weekend (that you are able to), and use the time that he’s asleep for a mini-date in the car, talking and enjoying each other’s company. We live in a beautiful area, so often we end up on tiny roadtrips in a 1hr radius and stop to pick up pie or something.
It will get better. Just hang on and remember when times are good that this is the cutest he will ever be for the rest of his life lol. Look at his little hands and remember he is small. And basically has temporary borderline personality disorder (hey I get to say it because I have it lol). Learn DBT emotional regulation skills for yourself and teach them to him. You can and will get to five!