Is 3 almost easier?

M

morgannicole555

New member
I’m trying to weigh the pros and cons of transferring our baby girl embryo this Fall. I have two boys (almost 2 & 4) and I’m 40. Husband is not 💯 in … yet. One of my arguments is I feel like with three kids life is still routine and monotonous but less so. There’s more happening, more self play , more fun etc. where with two, the routines are so predicable. Is this true? Am I kidding myself? I know it’s more work as well … haha
 
@morgannicole555 Imo when we had two it felt like being on "easy mode" (in the sense that the kids had each other). Having 3 was when it felt really fun and like a party. They shifted around and it was just a feeling of fullness. Love it. I would suggest to wait until the oldest goes to school (looks like you're close since one is 4), esp if they're with a sahp because 3 littles at home was really rough for me (oldest was 3 when third was born). Glad we went for it (we have 4).
 
@morgannicole555 I had my first day home alone with the kids (2 daughters 3 and 20 months and 3 mo son) and I was terrified it was going to be so hard but my thought on the day that surprised me was having 3 was way more fun than 1 or even 2. So much entertainment and friendship and sure a meltdown but then everyone napped so yay!
 
@wavervelvet Bravo! That’s how I picture it! I don’t love playing and my eldest requires it. I picture with a third it being a self driving car in a way. They keep each other going 1 and the mundane parts are more fun bc it’s more cuteness and joy . Of course more issues etc but overall besides bedtime i see it being a full house party ! Haha
 
@morgannicole555 Hardest for me (7, almost 5, and 20 months, all boys) is the older two are ok the same schedule and #3 is not. He’s still very much nap dependent and we got slowed down quite a bit when he arrived. He is worth it though.

I’m not sure if I could not take a chance transferring your little girl if I were you 🩷 best of luck with whatever you decide.
 
@morgannicole555 I have three kids, and the third has been a much easier transition than the second! The older two play together so I can focus more on the baby, and I’m already used to having my attention split, so adding one more just didn’t feel like a big deal.

1-2 was the hardest transition for me. 0-1 was a big change but I loved the newborn stage and I coslept so it didn’t feel too bad, but having another child two years later was a big change after being able to give everything to my firstborn. Adding a third two years after that was easy because I knew what to expect and the older kids were already used to sharing me. They also entertain each other quite well.
 
@morgannicole555 I think 0-1 is the hardest transition! But definitely 2-3 after that. 1-2 was nothing, and I'm pretty chilled out about #4 (due in September). Adding our third really changed the workload for some reason. The laundry. The laundry!!!!! And #3 is pretty much always left out. I think it really depends on personalities though, as my second is a pretty smart and self-aware little dude so it feels like he and the oldest are closer, while my third is always leaps behind them developmentally. I look forward to everyone having a buddy again.
 
@morgannicole555 I think it’s sooo dependent on luck-of-the-draw with baby temperament for the transition, and to an extent also just kiddo personality when older. Anecdotally, most families I know with 3 find it a lot as they cling onto the structure of two and attempt to stretch. Whereas most families I know with 4+ are waaaay more chilled out and happier, imo because they’ve relaxed into being ‘outnumbered’ and found good strategies.
 
@morgannicole555 I have my stepson full time. I have my two cousins often enough that they call me mom. So on the regular I have three and I have a fourth often. Odd numbers are hard bc one will get left out and it’s chaotic. Even numbers are easier bc you can pair them off lmao
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

B
Almost lost it w my younger kid
Replies
5
Views
95
randiseeks
R
F
1 year old up for 2 hours almost every night, tell me it gets better
2
Replies
28
Views
328
finleyk
F
T
Am I the ass hole for giving my baby’s away after a pregnancy I almost died at?
Replies
2
Views
133
taylorwashburn
T
H
I almost lost my 4 y.o. Today
5 6 7
Replies
125
Views
739
eculver82
E
S
I can’t fit any of my clothes at 8 (almost 9) weeks pregnant!!!!
Replies
5
Views
149
saved_by_grace2013
S
Back
Top