How many kids after 35 have you had ?

[sandpapermartyr]

I am 35, will be 36 in the fall. I’d love to have 2-4, but I am wondering if I should just be happy I might get 1 baby. I was married later in life, so I am stating my child bearing years later….

 

[wen]

@sandpapermartyr I'm one and done (had him at 38), but my best friend started at 35 and just gave birth to her 3rd kiddo at age 40. All were through IVF as she had unexplained fertility issues.

 

[sandpapermartyr]

@wen Thank you for sharing. May I ask why you decided 1 and done?

 

[wen]

@sandpapermartyr Sure. It's all in my post history if you want more details, but I had a truly awful pregnancy. I was dry heaving hundreds of times a day from 6 weeks pregnant until I gave birth (and that was with a LOT of anti-nausea medication). I just cannot put myself through that ever again.

My experience is extraordinarily rare, though.

 

[sandpapermartyr]

@wen I am sorry you had to experience that and I understand not wanting to again.

 

[jack871]

@sandpapermartyr I had 3 kids after 35, all conceived naturally on the first/second try

 

[cheesed1]

@jack871 Did you get the speech about how your fertility drastically drops in your 30s? My doctors started pestering me about dropping fertility rates around 32. I had my two children at 36 and 40. I got pregnant way too easily, which is why I had my tubes tied the day after my son was born.