Edit: I am so overwhelmed by support here, thank you so much. I have read every word and I appreciate this community a lot. He’s facing homelessness. It breaks my heart for him, but I won’t be taking him back.
11 years. 11 years and he left telling me he needed space for a week, but immediately texted his entire family that we were completely over, it was mutual. He told them he doesn’t want to talk about it, but he’s excited to tell them.
11 years of financial and emotional abuse. In the early years, I got pregnant and had an abortion I deeply regretted (still pro choice, just made the wrong choice for me). I got pregnant again twice soon after and lost both babies. Many years later, I found myself pregnant again a few months into the pandemic. I had my son almost 2 years ago now.
He’s been unemployed for almost a year now, he walked out of his last job while I begged him not to. He quit the job before that when I was 9 months pregnant. I’m a freaking nanny, I make good money but not enough to support a family. I’ve had to make it work all this time. Scramble, cut corners, listen to him promise he’d have money for the next bill but he’d rarely ever have it.
He says I’m psychotic, that I tortured him. I kept trying to put him in a box and he can’t live like that anymore. He’s glad he left. I was not perfect by any means, I made many mistakes, but fuck. I was just trying to survive.
My son comes to work with me 2 days a week and stays home with him 3 days, but it’s been almost a week since he’s left and he hasn’t taken him at all. He’s living in at a friends house, I have no idea if that is a long term option. As far as I know, he has no money.
He left my home in a car that is in my name, that he was supposed to pay for from the sale of his old car but he never gave me that money, he just spent it. He had just asked for gas money the day prior, so he drove away with my gas, too. I was originally giving him time to figure out if he wanted to pay cash or return the car to me, but he was blowing up my phone yesterday and I’m worried about his mental state. I have little savings and the money from selling that car will make a huge difference to my son and I. I decided I needed the car back, he wouldn’t cooperate and said I needed to give him time, he’d return it when his life allows. I offered to pick it up, he told me that would be trespassing and he’s armed. I got a police escort to help me retrieve the car last night.
My entire family, as well as his entire family, have all said I did way too much for too long and I shouldn’t take him back under any circumstances. My life is honestly much easier now, facing life as a single mom is petrifying but it has to be easier than feeling like a single mom to one kid and one adult.
I don’t know the point of this post, honestly. If you got this far, thanks for reading.
11 years. 11 years and he left telling me he needed space for a week, but immediately texted his entire family that we were completely over, it was mutual. He told them he doesn’t want to talk about it, but he’s excited to tell them.
11 years of financial and emotional abuse. In the early years, I got pregnant and had an abortion I deeply regretted (still pro choice, just made the wrong choice for me). I got pregnant again twice soon after and lost both babies. Many years later, I found myself pregnant again a few months into the pandemic. I had my son almost 2 years ago now.
He’s been unemployed for almost a year now, he walked out of his last job while I begged him not to. He quit the job before that when I was 9 months pregnant. I’m a freaking nanny, I make good money but not enough to support a family. I’ve had to make it work all this time. Scramble, cut corners, listen to him promise he’d have money for the next bill but he’d rarely ever have it.
He says I’m psychotic, that I tortured him. I kept trying to put him in a box and he can’t live like that anymore. He’s glad he left. I was not perfect by any means, I made many mistakes, but fuck. I was just trying to survive.
My son comes to work with me 2 days a week and stays home with him 3 days, but it’s been almost a week since he’s left and he hasn’t taken him at all. He’s living in at a friends house, I have no idea if that is a long term option. As far as I know, he has no money.
He left my home in a car that is in my name, that he was supposed to pay for from the sale of his old car but he never gave me that money, he just spent it. He had just asked for gas money the day prior, so he drove away with my gas, too. I was originally giving him time to figure out if he wanted to pay cash or return the car to me, but he was blowing up my phone yesterday and I’m worried about his mental state. I have little savings and the money from selling that car will make a huge difference to my son and I. I decided I needed the car back, he wouldn’t cooperate and said I needed to give him time, he’d return it when his life allows. I offered to pick it up, he told me that would be trespassing and he’s armed. I got a police escort to help me retrieve the car last night.
My entire family, as well as his entire family, have all said I did way too much for too long and I shouldn’t take him back under any circumstances. My life is honestly much easier now, facing life as a single mom is petrifying but it has to be easier than feeling like a single mom to one kid and one adult.
I don’t know the point of this post, honestly. If you got this far, thanks for reading.
