@jnb2 Ok so from experience, get a lawyer now and file for the divorce. Get temporary orders for full placement since he doesn't even have a place to exercise visitation with the child. File for temporary child support and alimony if applicable.
Do NOT do him any favors. He wants to see your kid, but at your place, with you there to help? Nope. He can find a suitable place to have time with your son. He doesn't have transportation? That's too bad, you're not a taxi service to bring the child to and from visits. You aren't a bad mom, you're not preventing him from seeing his kid, etc. You are setting boundaries for yourself and forcing him to take responsibility for parenting.
Seriously, how many mom's are taking the kids to and from visits, providing clothes for dad, providing food for dads house, making the kids call dad every night (even though he doesn't call them) in an effort to foster a relationship with the father? Tons. Set it up right now on full difficulty so that he can walk away sooner rather than later and call it a day.
I'm not saying all dads are shit and will walk away, but some do. My kids dad did. I see the writing on the wall for you already.
A toxic and abusive father is NOT a relationship worth salvaging for your child. Yes I said it.
Do NOT do him any favors. He wants to see your kid, but at your place, with you there to help? Nope. He can find a suitable place to have time with your son. He doesn't have transportation? That's too bad, you're not a taxi service to bring the child to and from visits. You aren't a bad mom, you're not preventing him from seeing his kid, etc. You are setting boundaries for yourself and forcing him to take responsibility for parenting.
Seriously, how many mom's are taking the kids to and from visits, providing clothes for dad, providing food for dads house, making the kids call dad every night (even though he doesn't call them) in an effort to foster a relationship with the father? Tons. Set it up right now on full difficulty so that he can walk away sooner rather than later and call it a day.
I'm not saying all dads are shit and will walk away, but some do. My kids dad did. I see the writing on the wall for you already.
A toxic and abusive father is NOT a relationship worth salvaging for your child. Yes I said it.