To be clear - Be very careful with this woman. If she wonāt do therapy and if she only wants to draw lines without discussing them with you or being flexibleā¦ she is not ready to be in this role.
Doesnāt mean she canāt be the love of your life. But she would need time and growth. You, the hypothetical love of her life, come with a whole different breed of hardship if anybodyās expectation is that she mother/parent/love your child - could be coming from you, herself, or society. My friend, this is not for the weak. Good luck.