To be clear - Be very careful with this woman. If she wonât do therapy and if she only wants to draw lines without discussing them with you or being flexible⌠she is not ready to be in this role.
Doesnât mean she canât be the love of your life. But she would need time and growth. You, the hypothetical love of her life, come with a whole different breed of hardship if anybodyâs expectation is that she mother/parent/love your child - could be coming from you, herself, or society. My friend, this is not for the weak. Good luck.