7 year old using the N word

[babychristianguy]

@chakra12 Show her clips of white people using it solely towards black people and show her why it’s bad to say it . Start with 13th on netflix

 

[katrina2017]

@chakra12 My child mimicked it from little kids calling each other it in first grade (with the a, not hard er). In reality, your issue isn’t with those kids, but their parents, and good luck telling others how to raise their kids.

I just explained to her it’s a bad word and when she’s older I’ll explain why. That would be my advice.

 

[logicrusade]

@chakra12 Wait whats the n word?

 

[vionnacj]

@chakra12 What’s wrong with saying Nancy?

 

[justme4now]

@chakra12 Is your daughter black? I’ve been told it’s okay to say (and largely ignored as a debasing slur) if you’re black.

 

[chakra12]

@justme4now No, we are white. It makes it worse

 

[alelai87]

@chakra12 It really does. It’s a very cruel thing to say to someone. People will always assume you taught her that. This is so much more than a bad word.

 

[katrina2017]

@chakra12 Don’t overload her with information. Tell her that it is a word that no one is supposed to say. If she asks tell her it is very hurtful and mean and tell her she doesn’t want to be mean. I really hate it when kids cuss because they parrot without understanding the impact. If there is something special she loves, like ice cream, tell her she won’t be able to have it for a week AND send her to a time out.

 

[anthony316]

@chakra12 There is no such things as bad words. There are words that are inappropriate, but all they really are is air going over vocal cords and out the mouth.

Teach your child about socially acceptable language, and make the penalty the same no matter what the language she uses. Making this an "extra bad" word will only want her to use it more when you are not around.

 

[ronaldballard]

@chakra12 Usually with kids at that age words are really abstract... and they have not they same meaning they have for us. Making a harsher punishment will make the word more attractive - the forbidden fruit etc. There is no way to make a kid understand exactly why and asking them for empathy and understanding is not really an option. No in this case.

So, ignore the word. Make other "bad words" that are fun to say, mean nothing and ask the kid not to say it to another soul! You can invent your own swear words that have different levels of anger in them. And invent your own words to curse people, like 'you utter buttercup!'

She means nothing wrong. But she also has no capacity to understand the reasons. The boundaries, in order to work, have to be set in something the child CAN understand.

 

[katrina2017]

@ronaldballard I strongly disagree. My 5 year old knows what it means because he has heard other kids say it to/near him. Don't ignore it. Educate the kid on why this is wrong.

 

[christyanthony913]

@ronaldballard 7 years old is enough to get a meaningful understanding. Certainly enough to understand why not to use it

No, it isn't an adult level understanding, but they can learn that unlike the usual other bad words there is no appropriate time to use this one.

 

[geepraiz]

@christyanthony913 Right? If my 7 year old is old enough to have experienced racism already, white kids of the same age are old enough to learn about it and fully understand why some things are harmful and cannot be said.

 

[chakra12]

@ronaldballard I like this

 

[katrina2017]

@chakra12 Really? It’s terrible advice…

 

[alwin]

@chakra12 Well you shouldn’t

 

[inwhominhim]

@chakra12 Did you ask where she heard it?

My son had a similar issue and it turns out apparently it's thrown around out his school like nothing between the kids. Non of them were saying it with intent to insult, they were using it as a greeting type thing.

Idk what kid started it, or how but I had to sit my son down and give him a talk about it, the history of it and why he in as a white person should not use the word.

I had to specifically tell him that because he was rather confused and asked why I have never said anything to his friends when I heard them, I told him because they are black they can choose to use or to not use the word. It's simply not my place to decide that.

He hasn't said it since from what I'm aware.

 

[isacco]

@inwhominhim Way to teach your child that black kids are different

 

[delistuff]

@isacco Black kids are different. My kids have experienced racism and discrimination again and again their entire lives.

We're all different

 

[isacco]

@inwhominhim Your child absolutely can experience racism.