one and done parents

Hey folks, after years of fence sitting my partner and I have decided the one and done life seems dreamy! We’re excited for this next chapter! However, the decision has come at a bit of a weird time. I’m 30(F) and we’re planning on doing a two week road trip in the summer. Knowing I’m one and...

I want to start going out regularly but how do u guys budget or set aside money ? Once u guys are out do u call often or tell them don't call. Particularly how much do u pay for a babysitter for one child at NIGHT . Like from 9-4. Do you have like a camera for them ?

I try to curate who I follow on social media so it doesn’t trigger my guilt as OAD by choice mother. I was following @oursignedworld who was proudly OAD. Now they are second guessing (one of the reasons is because their child is asking for a sibling). Which is fine, whatever. What is...

I am a OAD mom. My daughter is 7 years now . Till she was 5 years , i never thought of a second child but then i started seeing all her frens getting siblings. We r a family of 3 and most ppl around us are a family of 4 or more. I was turning 40 when the thought of second baby came. I...

Getting to the point where women I follow on social media that were pregnant close to the same time as me are starting to announce they are pregnant with baby #2. My first thought is “pshhhh…good luck with that. No thanks”. But then my 2nd thought is “wow, it must have been a lot easier for...

I am 25(f). My husband is the same age. We have an almost 3 y/o son. We are vehemently OAD. We have no desire for anymore children and feel like our family is complete. That being said, I want to pull the trigger on a tubal because I am TIRED of birth control, but I am a little hesitant about...

For me, it’s having to entertain my child 24/7. She’s 4 so she’s only in preschool 4 hours a day, 3 days a week, and this week she’s been on spring break so it’s just been me and her all day, everyday. I only work on the weekends and her dad works during the week so I’ve always been at home with...

Hi , In a school class( grade 1) , my daughter’s school teacher asked them to make 3 columns and write names / draw father , mother , sibling ( Family ) My daughter wrote the parents names and drew them in the 2 columns and said 0 siblings in the third. I saw that work/ page and felt a bit...

Does anyone feel invalidated by parents of multiple children/society at large? Example: I have occasionally complained in conversation with my Mum about some of my friends who have multiple children (3), when they haven’t taken me seriously or supported me when I confided in them about a...

Curious if those of us who are one and done have villages or not. Personally, I am a sahm who is with my son every single day 6 am to 8-9 pm. Dad gets off work around 6 pm and does help during the nights & weekends. Other than that we have no additional help. At first I thought we’d have 3...

The title is childish, just like my uterus. Even if I hadn’t tracked my cycles for 3 years to get pregnant with our only, I would surely still know when I’m ovulating. Every. Single. Month. My ovaries start whispering “bUt WhAT aBoUt ONe MorE” and “hE wOUlD LoVE a SIbLinG.” To which I whisper...

Like some, I envisioned having two kids before even getting pregnant, I felt that was the norm “they’ll always have each other”. Now…even though I knew kids would be in my future (hubby really wanted kids) I would have been okay either way if we never were able to. But we were able to conceive...

A lot of people say things get much easier after their baby turns one. My son will be one in a few weeks. What did you find became easier after your child turned one?? I'm looking for some reassurance here because my 11 month old is a lot right now lol. I would love to hear different thoughts...

I’m F 29 with a 2 y/o. I am married and I had my one and only child at 27. A couple months ago during an annual pap i casually asked my dr about getting my tubes tied. I was expecting push back but the only suggestion I got was how about ask if your husband would get a vasectomy bc it’s less...

I know that even if son had a sibling it’s not a promise they would have played together but parenting an only child who is spirited is tiring. My son also has ADHD and high-functioning autism. Child will be 7 in June and still won’t do anything alone. He would rather follow me around while I...

Me and my husband agreed to our OAD life when we were 6 months postpartum because I didn’t think I’d survive another PPD. But I had it solidified when my best friend had her baby 2 months ago. I held him and just went… “nope. I’m done. No more of this for me k thnx”

Originally we wanted several kids, but when we started trying we got pregnant with twins. I had a kind of traumatic birth; pregnancy was so hard, they were late, I had an emergency c section, and some pretty severe post partum anxiety to boot. Then our doc told us that it was extremely likely...

Title says it all. On a burner acct. I'm looking for advice on how to have an empathetic and supportive conversation with my partner as we look to make a "final" decision on family building. The details: me: 42M, spouse: 39W child: 2 y/o M, IVF still a few embryos frozen @ about $1500/year...

My husband and I are 99.99% sure that we would like to be OAD with our 3 month old daughter. I had an extremely painful pregnancy (had to use a wheelchair for anything more than 5 minutes of walking at the end) and a little bit of a traumatic birth. Despite having an IUD, I am horrified at the...

I watched my niece (2.5 y/o) and I quickly remembered why I am OAD. It was sooo chaotic and hard watching both of them. My baby is seriously a unicorn baby. People tell me all of the time how I have the easiest baby ever, and I agree (he’s 7 months). He sleeps well, is generally happy, goes days...