one and done parents

I just had a call from my realtor to update me on some stuff. In the background his daughter was laughing and screaming and he apologized, I said ‘that’s okay, I’ll be hearing that next year anyways’, he was surprised and asked when I was due. I said March, that this was my only and I couldn’t...

This weekend we took our almost six month old to see both of our families (a 2.5 hour trip one way). He did AMAZING! Husband and I were extremely anxious about the trip, worrying he wouldn’t sleep or nap or be miserable. He was totally chill (not saying this to brag as I suffere from terrible...

I tried to show that the cons outweigh the pros. He is still trying to convince me otherwise... Pros Babies are precious and their sentimental value is through the roof Current son (2M) would have a playmate (also a rival for attention) Society seems to expect that I have more than one Husband...

I occasionally get to play “mom” to multiple kids since i’m not mentally or physically stretched too thin in everyday parenthood. This past weekend, I texted a friend whose husband recently underwent major surgery. The friend was/is nursing him around the clock. O offered to watch their child...

I loved the recent post about children's books featuring only children. I'm not 100% OAD myself but it's very likely for a variety of factors and as a teacher of young kids, I just appreciate seeing all kinds of families represented in fiction. Often when a family has an only child in TV or...

So I didn’t know this sub even was a thing until someone suggested I join. So my husband and I have an almost four year old. We always thought we would have two kids, but in the last almost four years we haven’t felt that “need” to have a second. We are super content with our little family...

Fellow OADers, I implore you to take inspiration from the Emperor Penguin! While reading a beautiful story called "The Penguin's Journey" to my toddler, I was proud and impressed to see the representation of OAD families in nature, and I had to share. If you don't know much about Penguins, I...

I’ve always been of the mindset that asking people/couples about having kids shouldn’t be anybody’s damn business but themselves. I hate it when people respond to me saying we’re OAD, with “oh you gotta give them a little friend to play with”, or something to that affect. I find it offensive...

I could do with some advice and people’s opinion on this. My partner and I are firmly (absolutely firmly) OAD. I only ever wanted one but with the combination of my age (40 next year), a traumatic pregnancy, a difficult birth and a baby who almost died in his first week has absolutely cemented...

Why Are People Weird About Only Children? “Onlies” don’t seem to be any worse off than kids with siblings. So why do stereotypes about them persist? By Chiara Dello Joio When I was a child, my lack of siblings was often a source of bewildered concern. Don’t you get lonely? people would ask...

My husband and I were watching the movie Michells vs the Machines. It's a very cute movie, great animation, highly recommend. It features a family with 2 kids. In the film, the Mitchell mom (w/ 2 kids) is jealous of this other "perfect" family (w/ 1 kid). In one scene, the "perfect" mom is...

When I got pregnant, I promised myself that this little bean would never feel the anxiety and stress from me that I've felt from my family my whole life. I am one and done and try to do everything as well as possible for my son. I'm very close with my family. I see my parents and my sister...

I am one and done. I had a traumatic unplanned c-section and recovery was awful. Then I couldn’t breastfeed and that was so stressful. Then we had issues with formula feeding bc LO was having so many tummy troubles and screaming for hours. And also just the waking up every 3 hours to a baby...

Yesterday my husband and I decided we would not be doing another round of ivf, meaning we would not be having another child. The decision was made with a lot of thought and logic - we are currently happy with the family we have, ivf may not be successful, and even if it was, I have difficult...