one and done parents

I know ‘failure’ is a harsh word, but that’s how I feel. I had a horrible, horrible pregnancy that still seems like a fever-dream to me 3 yrs later. I usually name that as the main reason to be OAD, because a) most people respect that answer and stop pestering and b) it’s nicer to say out...

I hope this is ok to post here. Delete if not. My baby is 12 months and my husband just told me he’s firm on OAD. I’m not, I want 2. I was an only child growing up and I yearned for a sibling. (Sure there were definitely pros but I so badly wanted a sibling as a child, now it’s fine but back...

Hello there! Something has been on my mind so I’m just curious to hear other experiences. I grew up with an older brother and Christmas Eve and morning used to be the most magical 24 hours of my little life. I would be too excited to sleep, then Christmas morning we would try and wake my mom and...

Y’ALL! I’ve been dragging my feet on getting sterilized but the Roe decision kicked my ass into gear. The whole thing has been so much easier than I thought! The OB was fully on board with sterilization, no invasive questions or repeated appointments. I just got off the phone with my insurance...

TW for infertility, pregnancy loss, miscarriage, high risk, etc In a state with trigger-laws in place after the news of Roe v Wade being overturned today I am in a very reflective mood, and I don't think I am fence sitting anymore. Before my son was born I struggled with infertility and went...

My son is 5.5 months old. He’s my absolute world and I’m so happy. But if you take a look at my post history, it was nothing like that a few months ago. My pregnancy was good until it wasn’t - induced for pre-e. Baby was skinny, small and needed respiratory assistance at birth, born completely...

I’ll preface this by saying that I know children get sick in daycare - I’m an educator with nearly 12 years of experience! I’ve seen it all! But my 10 month old started at care (my place of employment) 6 weeks ago. Only 6! In that time he has had HFM, a green nose that will not go away even...

May 8th!! I repeat, May 8th! I gave birth 8 months ago and it has been a RIDE. (Feel free to look through my post history for more context). Not too long after delivery I joined this sub. It’s a weird unknown — being one and done. I’ve read and reread so many posts here trying to understand my...

My child is reaching a year now and I’m so dissatisfied in my relationship with my SO since EVERYTHING FALLS TO ME. Weaponized incompetence doesn’t even begin to scratch the surface of where we are. I have to ask him to do everything, and when I do, there is a MILLION follow up questions. Ask...

[Trigger warning: infertility, adoption, NICU stuff] This is going to be a long one, so buckle up. For my husband (34) and I (31), being one and done was not our original plan. In the beginning, we both wanted 2-3 kids. We both enjoyed pretty positive relationships with our own siblings and...

My partner is currently sitting on the floor with LO reading books and icing himself with a bag of frozen peas. I am relishing in making our family of three official!

My husband and I had never wanted kids. It was a big part of our relationship. 3 years of friendship where we piggy backed off each other on why we don't want kids. 3 years in our relationship telling people we won't be having any. Then 8 months before our wedding I was late. It was January of...

I had an appt with my OB last week because nothing down there has felt normal since I gave birth 6 months ago. Turns out I have a bunch of scar tissue that should get better with time/pelvic floor therapy/estrogen-heavy BC, so all's good there. BUT - my doctor asked me about multiples at the...

Today in the office I overheard a lady who is due in 2 months with #3 (a girl) saying how rough it was when her 2 boys who constantly bickered and fought while being unwell (3.5 and 20 months) were off sick for 2 weeks while her husband was off on a trip, and her parents are away enjoying...

Hello. My son just turned 5 on the 20th. He’s in pre-k Monday-Friday from 9-1. He’s been at the same school for 3 years. Birthday parties don’t seem to be a big deal here. It’s a small school with small classes, but we’ve only been to 4 birthdays across 3 years. My son also doesn’t have play...

Hi! My only is almost 2 and she's been in an in-home daycare for a year. We love it there. She loves her friends and the lady who runs it is an angel. When did you send your only to preschool or a daycare facility that is more like school/classroom based? My friend just posted on Instagram...

Hi Community! We just gave away all of the best of our gear from about 0 to 2 years. It couldn’t have gone to a better home; we gave it to the person who saved our sanity by being an amazing nanny and friend in the beginning of Covid lockdown. But I’m feeling an overwhelming grief at settling...

r/oneanddone1 I know cheesy name. Nobody has to join it if they don’t want to. I just wanted to make a sub and add active mods as a second option. I’ve already invited 2 people to be mods whom are in different time zones I plan to add at least 3-5 more. Oh and first order of buisness will be...

Growing up, I always said I never wanted kids. Fast forward many years to when I met my husband. We got married and had 1 kid. Now, we are both 36 and my son is 1.5 years old. I started taking lexapro to manage PPD 9 months ago. Mood is stabilized, but everyday seems grim because of the...

My son turns 2 months old this Friday and he has been STRUGGLING with day time naps for almost two weeks. He won’t go down for more than 45 minutes at a time (if that). He then is either up and alert or crying. We allow him some self-soothing (which he was getting really good at for a while) and...