alovedivine
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@infomommax I have 2. Going from 1-2 was hard for me. I lived in a fog until my youngest was about 3 years old. I have very few memories of my older child in that period because while my youngest was a baby and toddler I was so tapped out - I find that sad. I was in survival mode, working a stressful job and all that.
And yet… I desperately wanted a third. We tried for years on and off, but nothing happened. About 1-2 years ago I started to feel satisfied with 2. Now they are age 9 and 6 and it’s so wonderful. If my husband wants to go away for the weekend or he or I travel for work, it’s not a feeling of dread anymore, it’s a feeling of excitement! I love spending time with the two of them on my own.
I could write a lot about how thankful I am that we didn’t have three, but let’s just say we are thriving in life with two kids. We have amazing travel adventures together. We ski together and I’ll be sitting on a lift with my husband and two self-sufficient kids thinking just how HAPPY I am. My career is thriving as is my husbands. My husband and I have the household handled AND we have time for ourselves. I meditate, do yoga, go for long walks, workout in the gym. Life is great.
My gratefulness that the third child didn’t arrive is so profound. I sometimes think the secret to happiness might be to make peace with having one less child than you think you want. That energy I had reserved for the last child has gone to myself and my well-being.
And yet… I desperately wanted a third. We tried for years on and off, but nothing happened. About 1-2 years ago I started to feel satisfied with 2. Now they are age 9 and 6 and it’s so wonderful. If my husband wants to go away for the weekend or he or I travel for work, it’s not a feeling of dread anymore, it’s a feeling of excitement! I love spending time with the two of them on my own.
I could write a lot about how thankful I am that we didn’t have three, but let’s just say we are thriving in life with two kids. We have amazing travel adventures together. We ski together and I’ll be sitting on a lift with my husband and two self-sufficient kids thinking just how HAPPY I am. My career is thriving as is my husbands. My husband and I have the household handled AND we have time for ourselves. I meditate, do yoga, go for long walks, workout in the gym. Life is great.
My gratefulness that the third child didn’t arrive is so profound. I sometimes think the secret to happiness might be to make peace with having one less child than you think you want. That energy I had reserved for the last child has gone to myself and my well-being.