@infomommax I went from 1-2 and ended up quitting full time to do freelance work in my field for 4 years, then just went back to full time 9 months ago.
I’ll say that daycare is so much easier in that they have extended hours and fewer “days closed” than the school year.
My kids are 4 years apart which was perfect in that older son was more self sufficient and more patient with the baby/toddler. I love that.
What I didn’t love was juggling a school schedule AND daycare schedule. The closures and calendar and open hours did not line up. That part is a huuuuge headache for working parents.
And school … ugh. The hours are shorter than daycare. And so many little days off here and there (ex: closed Sept 24-25 and Oct 19-20, plus about 15-20 more days closed until end of year June!!)
So be willing to cough up cash for before/after care, and plans for allllll those non-school days (!!)…. and mom guilt cuz his/her friends’ mom or parent may not work full time.
I’d say only half his friends have moms that work full time. So he often compares or sometimes complains… “Jack’s mom took him to a water park on Friday’s school closure” or “Ethan’s family rented a cabin during the long four -day weekend”. (Not their real names)
When it’s daycare, their brains and language aren’t developed enough to speak up. But that will definitely change as they get older … for better, and for worse.
So navigating all those things… plus different sports schedules (!!)… with two kids … is a huge challenge.
It’s hard when they’re age 0-5, but even harder once they both have school, have strong opinions, have homework, have sports, have friendship drama, etc. It’s less labor in terms of diapers, carrying them, sleep deprivation … but so much more mental labor and social calendar labor.