To cut a long story short, myself and my ex husband have been divorced since 2013, we share a child together, a soon to be 12 year old boy whose awaiting testing for ADHD and Autism. For the 6 weeks holiday he went and spent 3 weeks with his Dad and his family (his Wife, and their 4 children, two of whom are diagnosed and medicated) we usually co parent very well together. I have just found out through my son today that his wife gave my son at least 3 or 4 tablets of methylphenidate (Ritalin) over the course of time he spent at his Dad's.
I asked my ex husband and at first he denied it saying he knew nothing about it. Then I get a phone call from his wife and she is trying to justify herself giving my son class B controlled drugs that weren't prescribed to my son. She said he wanted to try them, then said all the kids were being hyper and difficult to be around, then tried to say she had her husbands permission, but should have asked me first!
I am obviously fuming. I only found out because one of his teachers at school asked if he was medicated and he said no but he had tried some and it helped, then when he told me the story I asked him to explain what he meant.
It's illegal in the UK to supply a person prescribed medication not meant for them. I have a good relationship with her and him, well up until now and I told her I wasn't impressed and that even if she had asked me I would have answered no.
Where do I go from here? I don't want to cause damage to their family unit, but I also don't want this to swept under the rug. What would you do in my situation?
I asked my ex husband and at first he denied it saying he knew nothing about it. Then I get a phone call from his wife and she is trying to justify herself giving my son class B controlled drugs that weren't prescribed to my son. She said he wanted to try them, then said all the kids were being hyper and difficult to be around, then tried to say she had her husbands permission, but should have asked me first!
I am obviously fuming. I only found out because one of his teachers at school asked if he was medicated and he said no but he had tried some and it helped, then when he told me the story I asked him to explain what he meant.
It's illegal in the UK to supply a person prescribed medication not meant for them. I have a good relationship with her and him, well up until now and I told her I wasn't impressed and that even if she had asked me I would have answered no.
Where do I go from here? I don't want to cause damage to their family unit, but I also don't want this to swept under the rug. What would you do in my situation?
I’d be extra suspicious for awhile, but it’s likely going to be an eye opener for step mom to WATCH what she’s doing without your permission & id let go parent know that regardless if they knew or not they we’re ultimately responsible for the child while he’s in their care & you NEVER can have this happen again, or you wil escalate to keep son safe, regardless what that means for anyone other than son.