@someguy77 I hear you, but I just want to add that women do hurt kids in that way too. I have taken several hours of trainings on this topic at advocacy centers as I am a mandated reporter. Women do offend, and it’s also expected to be underreported as women are often looked at as nurturers and protectors of children. It’s easier for women to say something is a misunderstanding, because they can use the carer defense, like it was “just a bath.” Predators look for opportunities to be alone with children and very often it’s through their own children they gain access.
I am not saying that J did anything wrong at all. I am just saying that it is a legitimate concern that these people are expressing.
The fact that she is not close to the family doesn’t make a big difference to me as most cases of sexual abuse toward children are done by people very close and trusted by the family, or they are family.
@someguy77 Listen I know you mean well but like seemingly innocent situations like this are exactly why kids like me were raped at 4. Saying "not everyone is a pedophile" doesnt mean it sure as hell isnt a thing. I think your being insensitive. As for the father it's OK to have some precaution when someone else gets your kid naked. It's totally different than offering a meal and babysitting.
@nasusnuboc It's not some random woman, she is the mother of her child's friend from school, if she was helping out with the family she wasn't just a randomer.
@nasusnuboc All I am saying it I wouldn't just to conclusions like she's a pedophile. Which is the impression I got from the OP.
She was also washing her own son and maybe she didn't have anyone else to look the child so she just put them in together, it's a bit weird but I wouldnt go calling the cops
@someguy77 Hello? Disrobing bad bathing a child is signs of an abuser. And she wasn’t staying the night, she stayed for dinner. Presumably these parents would not send their five year old to stay the night at another person’s house that they didn’t know well.
@spiritualgrowth She put your 5 year old daughter in a bath with her 5 year old boy classmate?! Yeah, no. My daughter wouldn't be supervised by her ever again.
Your 5 year old was there for a short period of time, for a specific reason- to have dinner.
She was not there to take off all her clothes in front of non-family members and have her private exposed and possibly touched? I mean, what’s this lady’s definition of washing? Does she help? Did she put the opposite gender kids in the bath together? You just don’t know.
At best J’s got very poor boundaries and judgment, and that’s enough for me to keep my kid away from her.
@spiritualgrowth I dunno man.... obviously she should have asked you first before doing anything, but I'm sure she meant no harm, probably just trying to be nice.
Is it because J's kid is a boy and yours is a girl? Is he the same age? Personally, I think you may be over reacting just a tad. They're only little children, nothing bad will happen unless you're suspicious about J.
@iheartwinterjam I didn't get the vibe it was because they got bathed together, rather that OP got thrown because another adult unexpectedly saw their kid naked. I don't know.... from what we've heard here, I don't personally think J had any untoward intentions, but if I found out that someone I didn't know super well had taken my kids clothes off, I don't think I would like it, even though it was innocent.
