It was November 4th. I was pregnant with twins - a boy and a girl. My hubby was with me when I had the C-section a few days ago and we joked about naming them Oliver and Olivia. After naming them (Oskar and Opal, if ur wondering), we rested and stuff.
Then he went to pick up our older two from Grandma’s house. The oldest is 6 and the next one is 3. I waited to ages and my MIL’s house wan’t that far away so I asked a nurse.
I told her his name and she hurried out then came back in and her face was white as a sheet. She said someone with his exact full name and two children with my kids’ full names had just been admitted tot he hospital from a car accident.
The babies had been born at 36 +2 and were in a neonatal care unit but I was recovering so I went to see them.
The truck ran a red light and hit that at the intersection. It mostly hit my husband but also my son and they were unconscious; I went into their rooms (they had separate rooms) to see them also my daughter’s room.
My husband got to meet all our beautiful babies before passing away on the 5th of November.
My son broke his leg but will be fine, both him and his sister have a lot of cuts and bruises but the seatbelts and car seats helped. I know 6 year old who sit in the front seat and I am terrified knowing if that was my daughter she probably would’ve died.
I have been crying a lot but need to stay strong for my babies. My twin sister (fraternal twins run in my family) has been helping look after my kids; she has a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl and a 3 month old girl. We are very close and her husband works enough to support their family.
I hope no one in the comments says don’t have children without being able to financially support them; we would’ve been able to financially support our babies without my us and dying, so it’s not our fault.
I can’t properly take maternity leave because I do not have enough money to buy food without it. I am glad we paid of the mortgage!
I miss my husband a lot but feel I am not allowed to; my babies need me.
I will be crying myself to sleep tonight.
Then he went to pick up our older two from Grandma’s house. The oldest is 6 and the next one is 3. I waited to ages and my MIL’s house wan’t that far away so I asked a nurse.
I told her his name and she hurried out then came back in and her face was white as a sheet. She said someone with his exact full name and two children with my kids’ full names had just been admitted tot he hospital from a car accident.
The babies had been born at 36 +2 and were in a neonatal care unit but I was recovering so I went to see them.
The truck ran a red light and hit that at the intersection. It mostly hit my husband but also my son and they were unconscious; I went into their rooms (they had separate rooms) to see them also my daughter’s room.
My husband got to meet all our beautiful babies before passing away on the 5th of November.
My son broke his leg but will be fine, both him and his sister have a lot of cuts and bruises but the seatbelts and car seats helped. I know 6 year old who sit in the front seat and I am terrified knowing if that was my daughter she probably would’ve died.
I have been crying a lot but need to stay strong for my babies. My twin sister (fraternal twins run in my family) has been helping look after my kids; she has a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl and a 3 month old girl. We are very close and her husband works enough to support their family.
I hope no one in the comments says don’t have children without being able to financially support them; we would’ve been able to financially support our babies without my us and dying, so it’s not our fault.
I can’t properly take maternity leave because I do not have enough money to buy food without it. I am glad we paid of the mortgage!
I miss my husband a lot but feel I am not allowed to; my babies need me.
I will be crying myself to sleep tonight.
I cannot imagine how you’re feeling. I hope your family rallies around you & you get the support you need to grieve. You are allowed to mourn your husband & you’re allowed to miss him- there is no time frame. Please don’t think you have to be strong 100%- you already ARE strong, & you should cry & mourn. That lets your children know it’s okay for them to do the same. You & your sweet babies are in my prayers 
I was so worried that we’d lose a baby since they were early, twins normally are early.
x