christopherk
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I work eight hour shifts. With a commute, it’s 8.5 or 9 hours away from baby, depending on the day. On off days when baby is with me, he nurses every three to four hours. He’s almost 5 months old, 50th percentile for weight and 40th for height.
He has two caregivers while I’m working. One comes to our home. He seems to have a better routine and eats 12-16 ounces, depending on whether or not he got a little extra morning feed in before I have to head out the door.
Two days a week he goes to my mother’s house. She insists that she needs five 5oz bottles to keep him satisfied. When I send four 5oz ounce bottles, she calls me panicked that he’s finished his last bottle an hour before I’ll be picking him up. I end up pumping A LOT more to keep up.
I tried leaving a couple of “emergency” bags of milk at her house. But on those days she’ll feed him 30 ounces.
She tells me maybe my milk is too thin, and I just need to feed him formula because he’s never satisfied.
Is it possible there is some way she’s preparing the milk that is ruining it’s caloric value (e.g. overheating, shaking, heating too far in advance)?
I feel like he may not be getting adequate nap time while at her house, and that may be throwing him off?
Has anyone been here? He still nurses at 7p, 11p, 3a, and 7a at home. Sometimes I’ll sneak in an extra session at 8:30a just to top him off before I leave for work. I just don’t know how he could need to eat this much. I talked to the LC at the peds office, and she said my mom needs to feed him 4-5 oz every 3 hours and more is too much.
I’m at my wit’s end. I’ve nursed this baby through COVID, RSV, and flu - and this is going to be what does me in.
I’m angry and frustrated. Sad and overwhelmed. This may be more of a vent than anything.
He has two caregivers while I’m working. One comes to our home. He seems to have a better routine and eats 12-16 ounces, depending on whether or not he got a little extra morning feed in before I have to head out the door.
Two days a week he goes to my mother’s house. She insists that she needs five 5oz bottles to keep him satisfied. When I send four 5oz ounce bottles, she calls me panicked that he’s finished his last bottle an hour before I’ll be picking him up. I end up pumping A LOT more to keep up.
I tried leaving a couple of “emergency” bags of milk at her house. But on those days she’ll feed him 30 ounces.
She tells me maybe my milk is too thin, and I just need to feed him formula because he’s never satisfied.
Is it possible there is some way she’s preparing the milk that is ruining it’s caloric value (e.g. overheating, shaking, heating too far in advance)?
I feel like he may not be getting adequate nap time while at her house, and that may be throwing him off?
Has anyone been here? He still nurses at 7p, 11p, 3a, and 7a at home. Sometimes I’ll sneak in an extra session at 8:30a just to top him off before I leave for work. I just don’t know how he could need to eat this much. I talked to the LC at the peds office, and she said my mom needs to feed him 4-5 oz every 3 hours and more is too much.
I’m at my wit’s end. I’ve nursed this baby through COVID, RSV, and flu - and this is going to be what does me in.
I’m angry and frustrated. Sad and overwhelmed. This may be more of a vent than anything.