Just had a near miss with wife having newborn, now I have a healthy 2nd boy

[benjmck2]

@iaen Yeah, up until now most of mine have been wake up from deep sleep to catch my toddler doing something unsafe, or those dad reflex catch the baby by the leg type moments.

 

[iaen]

@benjmck2 Still impressive.

 

[quinn32]

@benjmck2 First of all, congratulations! Secondly, well done for trusting your gut.

Wife and I aren't well off, so we're hesitant to take on more costs unnecessarily

This isn't supposed to be a European flex, but it's awful that in a developed country (or anywhere) the cost of healthcare should be a consideration. When my second was born we had some investigations, then she was delivered by C-section very premature, spent time on NICU, had a private room for another week, and ultimately came home with daily visits from a nurse. At no point did we even know what the costs were, let alone take decisions based on them: there was no bill.

No one should have to weigh up the cost of healthcare when deciding what's best for their child.

 

[lightnow23]

@benjmck2 Excellent use of instincts! So glad you followed your gut. Are they not able to see the umbilical cord on the ultrasound?

 

[benjmck2]

@lightnow23 Not that clearly, they can see the insertion point easily enough, but from what I could see, it mostly appears as the same black space as the amniotic fluid with hints of blood flow. If it were all 3d ultrasound imaging, you can, but if you've looked at those 3d ultrasounds, it's not always clear what's what until you can point out a landmark. If the knot were lose it would be pretty hard to tell it's even potentially a knot if you saw that exact spot on the image, and if it were tensed down it's hard to tell a knot from a bulge on the imaging.

 

[mullygrubs]

@benjmck2 Good job and congratulations.

Now this is very important. Anytime he talks back you now get to say "we saved you life you don't get to talk back."

 

[benjmck2]

@mullygrubs I figured I'd go with something along the lines of "I let you live once already, my benevolence does have limits though." It's obviously a work in progress.

 

[ngoc]

@benjmck2 Dude, that is some incredible situation handling. Bra-fucking-vo

 

[benjmck2]

@ngoc Appreciate it.

 

[swat]

@benjmck2 Congrats and glad everything turned out ok.

Also, as a dad expecting #2 in 4 weeks, oof.

 

[benjmck2]

@swat I'll give you the same advice my wife was given, pay attention to all reductions in movement. I wish you the best of luck with your number 2.

 

[tiffenny]

@benjmck2 Man, as someone who has gone through medical trauma with our first, I’m SO happy for you guys and your baby. Glad this story ended on such a good note and your baby boy is healthy. Congrats!

 

[benjmck2]

@tiffenny Appreciated.

 

[djared]

@benjmck2 geez! great decision and so happy you have a newborn.

 

[benjmck2]

@djared Thank you, I'm thriving on the fresh baby cuddles.

 

[water_record]

@benjmck2 That is a wild read. So glad you managed to make the right decision!

 

[benjmck2]

@water_record So am I, thanks.

 

[mattthedford]

@benjmck2 Good instincts!

We have three and just the unknown of knowing everything that could happen during pregnancy made me a nervous wreck each time.

 

[benjmck2]

@mattthedford I work in surgery at a trauma 1 hospital so I see some of the things I never thought of happening before.

 

[benjmck2]

@personalgoalsetting It's always hard for me to decide on whether the gut is worth the decision... Risk vs reward or sadly in some situations risk vs risk.