@disguisedlamb As a SAHM, I can understand where your wife’s [misguided] sense of control is coming from. She needs to grasp that just because it is not how she envisioned it, doesn’t make it wrong. Both at work or at home. I have worked for women like this (they never let up and have unrealistic expectations for their teams as well, thinking it makes them look better for everyone to work themselves I to the ground) and all it does is lead to burnout. In general, I’d be her male counterparts don’t overthink it all the way she does, and I’d bet they don’t come home to their partners and make the same criticism about how they parent when sick. Equality does not mean domination.