@daniel83 So this reminds me of when we were newly expecting, and I was so scared about what life would be like, and I was so worried that our lives would be over when our daughter was born, and I just remember my husband telling me that I was looking at it all wrong (which is a ballsy thing to say to a very pregnant tired, grouchy, stressy wife.)
And he told me to think of it like we are adding someone to our party. A new adventure buddy if you will.
That really switched my perspective, and since she born (or since I was ready to be up and around) we literally just have gone and done the things we've wanted to do and took her with us, and somehow made it work. Granted there are some things we couldn't do, and it is still challenging sometimes, because you do have the added mental load of making sure your kid is getting what they need, but over all it's worked out great for us so far, and our kid has turned out fairly adaptable because of it.
My husband and I also go to DnD every Saturday (for the most part) and we just take our daughter with us. Our party is great in that they understood that we had a kid when they invited us to come play, and therefore expected and were patient with the ensuing ordeals until we all became accustomed to it, even though at the time none of them had any children.
We started when she was about 6 months old, and shes now a year. We just make sure that we have food, blanket, binky, bottle, toys, and other things she needs. Oh and a pack and play! For the first few months it was mostly just like playing pass the baby, and we would have to take breaks every once in awhile so I could breastfeed, but everyone was super understanding and they even had a separate room for me to feed her in. Now we just set up the pack and play next to one of us so that she can feel like she's part of the group. And so I can feed her snacks and still take my turn. And sometimes she want to play toys and sometimes she wants to watch some bluey, and sometimes she just wants to hang out in my lap or her dad's lap. But usually once it gets to her bedtime she'll get a little fussy and we will make her a bottle and put her down in the pack and play next to us, sometimes she wakes up, and sometimes she sleeps right through the louder than I'd like talking. But either way, I got to keep the socialization aspect of my week (sahm) and she got a chance to play with puppies and eat snacks and play toys. So win win really.
TLDR;
You can totally keep your life and have a kid, it just takes a little more patience and leg work, and maybe some pauses in your dnd sessions, but ultimately i have found it to be completely worth it.