@oddduck123 I struggle with this so much and it’s a relief sometimes to be in this subreddit, knowing there are other women in my situation. So thanks for making this post!
I have a bachelors and masters in the healthcare field and eventually became a SAHM once our baby came. Planned to come back but circumstances had me staying at home as I believed that was the best for our family; husband works 2 jobs and is in part time law school.
I go through so many emotional meltdowns and rollercoasters when I hear and talk to my friends about their careers, even if they are my mom friends. However, the feelings only last a day or so because I realized it’s just “FOMO” - fear of missing out. I like to analyze why I feel certain ways and I come to realization that I just don’t want to feel left out with being in the work force! Then I imagine what it would be like to work and take care of my baby, which would include half assing both jobs as we don’t have a lot of help, waking up early and ruining my and my baby’s sleep so I could take him to daycare, not spending time with him throughout the day, not making healthy meals, not spending time with my hobbies such as cooking, baking, reading, and the list goes on! I focus on what this SAHM opportunity has given to me and my family and that really helps with the FOMO I feel.
As for education, I’m a nurse and I still use that everyday with my family. I am still continuing my education but it may not be in healthcare. I’m learning new languages, how to cook new dishes, learning how my baby is growing and his preferences for how to do things, and just other things that I wouldn’t get the chance to if I was working 40+ hours a week!
I know this sounds corny but the world is really our oyster and there’s so much more to work! There is life and more knowledge to be found outside of it and it doesn’t require being tied to a monetizing institution.
Also, my friends who worked in palliative care always reminds me that people never wished they worked more in their death bed. They always wished they had more time with their loved ones.