@stephenk it is hard - not gonna lie. What is harder is seeing the performance drop as well, especially that it took me such a long time to recover after my first delivery. But honestly - anything is more than no workouts at all - which is what I keep reminding me off.
I have recently heard an interesting fact :Maternal blood volume increases by 45% to approximately 1 200 to 1 600 ml above non-pregnant values. That means our hearts needs to work harder, and we need more oxigen as well, plus we have a baby to carry and our lung capacity is also compromised on top of it all. It is more than amazing that despite all these insane changes we are still committed to our goals.
Hand on heart, as a mum and someone who is going through this the second time round, my honest advice is, do it for your mental health, when possible and when you can. We will have the rest of our lives to chase those body/workout/personal best goals, but we only carry out little ones a handful of times max.
It is a precious time and doesn't last all that long!
As for the time after delivery - give yourself time to recover. The official advice is not to do anything before 6 weeks after, but with more complex deliveries they often recommend 12 weeks if not longer. It took me 12 months to gather my mental, emotional and physical strength to go back to my workout regime and 24 months before I felt like I was going back to my previous self. It takes time. But there is no rush. Consistency is key.
You will find your routine, as a mum, as a household, as a partner, to see what is the best time for you to workout. I had to compromise, and give up my gym and private PT lessons, but I made a swap to Peloton (this is not an ad) and never looked back. It gives me enormous flexibility to workout when I can where I can (I often do workouts on my phone too)
Honestly I couldn't be without it.
All in all though - try not to stress too much over it. Things will settle down, you will start feeling a bit better after week 20ish (2nd trimester) and once the baby is here, find what works for you that you can stick with and it will work itself out!
Best of luck!