kaleidoscopeheart
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Edit/update: wow, thanks everyone for this delightfully overwhelming response. I have needed this encouragement so desperately, and it is appreciated. I made this post last night after a really long week, and I needed this. Sorry I can’t respond to everyone, though I am reading all the comments.
It helps knowing i’m not the only one, and I love everyone’s suggestions. I went to dinner with hubs tonight and we had some good convo. Basically, we’re both going to work on me taking care of myself and getting some time to myself. We’re also going to get on the same page about different techniques with managing our toddler’s behavior. It’s tough to feel like you’re completely rewriting the playbook that your parents used for you, which is where I’m at with raising my toddler. But we’ll figure this out!
My hubs does 95% of the totally house cleaning (I do bathrooms and kitchen/dishes), 100% of the laundry, and 100% of the yard work. He comes home and typically drops his things to play with the kids - he’s great. But his inability to extend me some grace is my biggest issue I have with him. We’re working on it, but I also need to extend this grace and to myself, and to him.
The childcare is tricky. According to local mom groups, all the daycares are struggling with staffing. We love our daycare, and don’t really want to change. But it’s just a kick in the ass right now. I might be going to a different preschool next year so maybe it’ll be better by then.
Again, thank you all
this is and has been my favorite sub for a while, and this is one really big reason.
I work full time in a fairly stressful job- dealing with customers all day. It is fully remote. My 2.5 year old is supposed to go to daycare, but between his sicknesses and daycare straight up closing because of staffing and calls off, he rarely has a week where he goes each day.
I also have a 9 month old that I lost babysitting for (9month old has a different arrangement than daycare) and haven’t found another option for him yet, so he’s at home with me. Usually nursing while I’m on the phone.
My 9 month old sleeps pretty great, but has been having an early wake up that’s cruelly one hour before I have to get up, so I’m losing some sleep.
I manage all the appointments for the house, grocery shopping and total cooking. This ISNT a shit on my husband post- he’s amazing and totally pulls his weight.
I’m just so tired, and I know I’m a cranky bitch anymore. My husband tells me I’m no fun to talk too anymore, I can’t take a joke, I take everything too seriously and sensitively. And truly, I know he’s right. But idk any solutions. I work out 3 times a week, I’m trying to engage in positive behavior, but I’m just feeling numb and sinking.
My toddler is challenging- as toddlers are. He’s obsessed with pulling his diaper of, throwing tantrums. Nothing out of the norm, but I’m at a loss for discipline. My parents spanked me, and I don’t want to continue that. But idk what to do otherwise and I feel so frustrated.
Idk what I need from this. I just don’t know how to cheer up. It’s easy to say “get therapy” but it’s hard to find the time. But maybe I need to try harder. Therapy isn’t going to change the fact that I got kids and work and life is kicking my ass right now lol
Anyway, thanks for reading.
It helps knowing i’m not the only one, and I love everyone’s suggestions. I went to dinner with hubs tonight and we had some good convo. Basically, we’re both going to work on me taking care of myself and getting some time to myself. We’re also going to get on the same page about different techniques with managing our toddler’s behavior. It’s tough to feel like you’re completely rewriting the playbook that your parents used for you, which is where I’m at with raising my toddler. But we’ll figure this out!
My hubs does 95% of the totally house cleaning (I do bathrooms and kitchen/dishes), 100% of the laundry, and 100% of the yard work. He comes home and typically drops his things to play with the kids - he’s great. But his inability to extend me some grace is my biggest issue I have with him. We’re working on it, but I also need to extend this grace and to myself, and to him.
The childcare is tricky. According to local mom groups, all the daycares are struggling with staffing. We love our daycare, and don’t really want to change. But it’s just a kick in the ass right now. I might be going to a different preschool next year so maybe it’ll be better by then.
Again, thank you all
this is and has been my favorite sub for a while, and this is one really big reason. I work full time in a fairly stressful job- dealing with customers all day. It is fully remote. My 2.5 year old is supposed to go to daycare, but between his sicknesses and daycare straight up closing because of staffing and calls off, he rarely has a week where he goes each day.
I also have a 9 month old that I lost babysitting for (9month old has a different arrangement than daycare) and haven’t found another option for him yet, so he’s at home with me. Usually nursing while I’m on the phone.
My 9 month old sleeps pretty great, but has been having an early wake up that’s cruelly one hour before I have to get up, so I’m losing some sleep.
I manage all the appointments for the house, grocery shopping and total cooking. This ISNT a shit on my husband post- he’s amazing and totally pulls his weight.
I’m just so tired, and I know I’m a cranky bitch anymore. My husband tells me I’m no fun to talk too anymore, I can’t take a joke, I take everything too seriously and sensitively. And truly, I know he’s right. But idk any solutions. I work out 3 times a week, I’m trying to engage in positive behavior, but I’m just feeling numb and sinking.
My toddler is challenging- as toddlers are. He’s obsessed with pulling his diaper of, throwing tantrums. Nothing out of the norm, but I’m at a loss for discipline. My parents spanked me, and I don’t want to continue that. But idk what to do otherwise and I feel so frustrated.
Idk what I need from this. I just don’t know how to cheer up. It’s easy to say “get therapy” but it’s hard to find the time. But maybe I need to try harder. Therapy isn’t going to change the fact that I got kids and work and life is kicking my ass right now lol
Anyway, thanks for reading.