amandabritobaez
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@om4e Maybe I didn't word a lot of those well.
(1) I was only thinking of how much enjoyment I got out of my relationship with my sibling (and presumably it was mutual as we remain good friends) and how I wouldn't want to deprive her of the opportunity to have the same. But I take your point that it could go either way so it's really neutral, which I kind of already said.
(2) I didn't mean that I want to pay less attention to my child. I more meant that they might feel less pressure or expectations on them, more freedom to explore different interests. I don't know what it's like to be an only child but I wonder if she'd feel pressured to conform to certain societal expectations. For example, if she chooses not to have kids of her own, that's fine with me but then she might feel bad about not giving us grandkids. Whereas if we have two kids then she might not feel as bad about that decision if she knows the other sibling could still have kids. Just general stuff like that. We will try our best to be conscious of not burdening her with expectations but things can be done subconsciously.
(3) I didn't mean caring financially. We're planning for retirement and should have no problems there, barring unforeseen catastrophe. But I mean the general familial responsibilities. Coming over to help your elderly parents with home repairs or technology. Driving them to doctors appointments when they get too old. Etc.
(1) I was only thinking of how much enjoyment I got out of my relationship with my sibling (and presumably it was mutual as we remain good friends) and how I wouldn't want to deprive her of the opportunity to have the same. But I take your point that it could go either way so it's really neutral, which I kind of already said.
(2) I didn't mean that I want to pay less attention to my child. I more meant that they might feel less pressure or expectations on them, more freedom to explore different interests. I don't know what it's like to be an only child but I wonder if she'd feel pressured to conform to certain societal expectations. For example, if she chooses not to have kids of her own, that's fine with me but then she might feel bad about not giving us grandkids. Whereas if we have two kids then she might not feel as bad about that decision if she knows the other sibling could still have kids. Just general stuff like that. We will try our best to be conscious of not burdening her with expectations but things can be done subconsciously.
(3) I didn't mean caring financially. We're planning for retirement and should have no problems there, barring unforeseen catastrophe. But I mean the general familial responsibilities. Coming over to help your elderly parents with home repairs or technology. Driving them to doctors appointments when they get too old. Etc.