Help me grieve/get over this

[stillwaters45]

@danielson0101 if you want another and think you’ll regret it, have another. leave your husband and have another. kids isn’t something you can compromise on

 

[jimspirit]

@stillwaters45 Hell no! When adding children or pets to the family it takes two yeses but only one no to make the decision. Anything else is selfish. If one partner says "I can't/don't want to add a second child to our life" you respect that because you love and care about your partner and their well-being. My husband has said he cannot handle a second child. What kind of person would I be to just have another kid anyway?

 

[quantum777]

@stillwaters45 Stupidest advice ever.

 

[stillwaters45]

@quantum777 no, not really. you can’t compromise on kids. you just can’t. if one party in a marriage wants kids and another doesn’t you’re completely incompatible.

 

[quantum777]

@stillwaters45 You can compromise on more kids. You're recommending she break up her family and give up 50% of her time with her existing child. What you're talking about is people who are childfree or not. This isn't the same as people having more children. At all.

 

[stillwaters45]

@quantum777 yes, it’s the same. it’s exactly the same.