lightoffaith
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My baby is 4months old. We live 8 hours away from family. family wants us to travel to them for the holidays. I don’t want to travel for our 1st holidays together. I’ve done the trip 2x already, and 2x to Vegas is his family can spend time with my child. I’m done. Any advice on how to to tell her Dad and family no w/o starting WWIII?
When I bring it up to her dad he says “they are used to me traveling to them b/c I have the time off work and I’ve been childless for so long.” He wants to travel with 2 dogs, me, him, and the baby with all out things for a weeks stay in a Honda Pilot. His sister has a cat and I’m allergic. It’s just a whole bunch of no. I get so upset about it. I’m giving so much to a situation where I should have more of a voice. I don’t know how to talk about it w/o getting angry w/ him and family.
UPDATE***
I talked to the husband about my wants. His solution is to stay at home for Christmas and then we will go down to visit his family the day after Christmas. NO! I told him no and then he suggested he take the baby down there on his own while I stay home to work. NO! No way am I letting anyone take my 4 month old away for that long or that far away. I let him know he can go by himself. He said we would talk about it later and that was a couple days ago.
When I bring it up to her dad he says “they are used to me traveling to them b/c I have the time off work and I’ve been childless for so long.” He wants to travel with 2 dogs, me, him, and the baby with all out things for a weeks stay in a Honda Pilot. His sister has a cat and I’m allergic. It’s just a whole bunch of no. I get so upset about it. I’m giving so much to a situation where I should have more of a voice. I don’t know how to talk about it w/o getting angry w/ him and family.
UPDATE***
I talked to the husband about my wants. His solution is to stay at home for Christmas and then we will go down to visit his family the day after Christmas. NO! I told him no and then he suggested he take the baby down there on his own while I stay home to work. NO! No way am I letting anyone take my 4 month old away for that long or that far away. I let him know he can go by himself. He said we would talk about it later and that was a couple days ago.