Do you consider it "taboo" for a boy to see the diaper changing of his baby sister?
annamarie6991
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@knorvy10 Nope. My son is 3 and he takes showers with my husband and I. When his sister is born in a few months he'll be my diaper changing assistant and he'll see me breastfeeding her all day every day.
We've recently started teaching him that his penis is private, but only because he will pull his pants down in the front yard if he has to pee regardless of who's around.
We've recently started teaching him that his penis is private, but only because he will pull his pants down in the front yard if he has to pee regardless of who's around.
@knorvy10 I have 2 bios, 1st is F12 and 2nd is 10M. We never made diaper changes a privacy thing. He has a penis she has a vagina.
I think "back in the day" it was more frowned upon not as a sex sexual thing (if that makes sense) but as a sexuality thing. Ppl were (and a lot still are) weird about genders and opposite sex.
I think "back in the day" it was more frowned upon not as a sex sexual thing (if that makes sense) but as a sexuality thing. Ppl were (and a lot still are) weird about genders and opposite sex.
christa81787
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@knorvy10 Not at all. And it's a great time to explain the difference between boys and girls. Cuz you know they'll ask how come sister doesn't have a penis. I changed my daughter in front of her brother the whole time she was little. Though he didn't pay too much attention. But by the time she started wearing a pull up he knew that that she didn't have a penis like him. I think his mom explained to him.
katrina2017
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@knorvy10 Personally, no. I don't think you should make a huge deal out of diaper changing to a kid by sending them away.
Plus it is a learning opportunity. I had only my mom and sister so once when my mom was changing my male cousin, i noticed his privates were different and asked my mom why and she said boys have different parts.
It wasn't sexual or weird. I just said ohhh ok and then continued playing.
Plus it is a learning opportunity. I had only my mom and sister so once when my mom was changing my male cousin, i noticed his privates were different and asked my mom why and she said boys have different parts.
It wasn't sexual or weird. I just said ohhh ok and then continued playing.
@knorvy10 I think I chnaged my baby brother and baby sisters diapers when I was younger.
But as 20f I wouldn't really mind whether or not I change my kids diapers in front of each other.
I think it matters if they are for example; cousins.
My Aunt changes her son's diapers in front of me and I personally feel uncomfortable.
But as 20f I wouldn't really mind whether or not I change my kids diapers in front of each other.
I think it matters if they are for example; cousins.
My Aunt changes her son's diapers in front of me and I personally feel uncomfortable.
remythologized
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@knorvy10 My parents legit tried to hide the fact that boys and girls are different from me. Hid all diaper changes, never answered any questions, hid anatomy books and anything that hinted towards anatomy. I think it messed with me. I became hyper-focused on genitals at a young age and I think it led to some....situations.
I don't think it's healthy for the kid to avoid/hide anatomy.
I don't think it's healthy for the kid to avoid/hide anatomy.
flaviodesousa
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@giangnt Just cause I think it's interesting, I wanted to share:
In recent decades it was realized that our earliest ancestors most likely almost never resided in caves. Taking shelter for a night in passing, maybe, but making a settlement in a cave, very unlikely. Turns out they thought caves were pretty shitty. But due to the air/light properties of caves, artifacts are well-preserved there, so that's basically why for a long time everyone thought cave-dwelling had been a thing.
But to your point, YEP, I AGREE.
In recent decades it was realized that our earliest ancestors most likely almost never resided in caves. Taking shelter for a night in passing, maybe, but making a settlement in a cave, very unlikely. Turns out they thought caves were pretty shitty. But due to the air/light properties of caves, artifacts are well-preserved there, so that's basically why for a long time everyone thought cave-dwelling had been a thing.
But to your point, YEP, I AGREE.
@flaviodesousa That's def a very interesting fact. 
firefighterforchrist
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@knorvy10 I'm nearly 30 and I can remember what both of my parents look like naked, I have no adverse effects, they're just bodies. Its not sexual or scary or taboo. They wouls take showers and get changed and pee and make no real effort to hide it. They always respected my privacy when I wanted it though. But that was when I was old enough to care if anyone was in the wood while I was changing or something.
I fear it could be unhealthy to make a deal of seeing a child naked and the other way around too inside the family home.
I fear it could be unhealthy to make a deal of seeing a child naked and the other way around too inside the family home.
thatgirlsusan
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@knorvy10 You're right. It is sexist. I have a young bil who would exclaim "Oh no! Pornography!" and blush and run out of the room if he saw my daughter having a diaper change. Our response? There's nothing sexy about changing a diaper and of you think there is, you need a counselor.
This same bil couldn't even look in my direction if I was breastfeeding, even when I had a cover over me with absolutely nothing showing. He said it was for "privacy" and "respect" but I find it offensive and rude that he can't have a conversation with or around a female unless they're covered up. It's annoying to have a conversation with someone looking on the opposite direction just because my daughter is hungry.
To me, real respect would start by respecting and honoring me as a person. By being so hypervigilant, they reduce females to being just their bodies. Why can't they focus on who we are rather than what parts of us may or may not be exposed?
This same bil couldn't even look in my direction if I was breastfeeding, even when I had a cover over me with absolutely nothing showing. He said it was for "privacy" and "respect" but I find it offensive and rude that he can't have a conversation with or around a female unless they're covered up. It's annoying to have a conversation with someone looking on the opposite direction just because my daughter is hungry.
To me, real respect would start by respecting and honoring me as a person. By being so hypervigilant, they reduce females to being just their bodies. Why can't they focus on who we are rather than what parts of us may or may not be exposed?
flaviodesousa
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@knorvy10 I prob woulda continued on with the convo like normal, but would have added "Wow that's really unfortunate, I think your mom made a mistake in making that choice. Now's your time to learn! And your son's gonna learn right along with you!"
Just to make it less of a big deal. For everyone. To diffuse the stupid.
Your hubs can't help how he was raised. If he tried to protest, then I might be a little more vocal, but otherwise I wouldn't lay into him. That's sort of doubling down with the shame, ya know?
It's good you've chosen to intervene on this point but don't frame hubs as an enemy unnecessarily. Consider it a teaching moment.
Easier said than done I know... my impulse would be to freak out too, but the fact of the matter is boys are indoctrinated with a fuckton of unhealthy ideology so we can't allow ourselves to be unnerved by the fact those are the men we've got today. It's slow-goin...a generation at a time...but it's honest work! Lol. Good luck, mommabear, hope you get the vibe of what I'm sayin'. All love!
Just to make it less of a big deal. For everyone. To diffuse the stupid.
Your hubs can't help how he was raised. If he tried to protest, then I might be a little more vocal, but otherwise I wouldn't lay into him. That's sort of doubling down with the shame, ya know?
It's good you've chosen to intervene on this point but don't frame hubs as an enemy unnecessarily. Consider it a teaching moment.
Easier said than done I know... my impulse would be to freak out too, but the fact of the matter is boys are indoctrinated with a fuckton of unhealthy ideology so we can't allow ourselves to be unnerved by the fact those are the men we've got today. It's slow-goin...a generation at a time...but it's honest work! Lol. Good luck, mommabear, hope you get the vibe of what I'm sayin'. All love!
srbijadamus
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@knorvy10 I'm very open and honest with my kids about as much as I can. They're 10 and 11 right now. But I took them to see Deadpool when it came out and I had a lady complain to me that I shouldn't bring them in because of the"graphic sexual content" and "full frontal male nudity". That was definitely the epitome of hyperbole. I watch adult themed shows with them and use it as an opportunity to talk to them about things. And I think they're more mature than other kids their age. I remember at that age I would turn away during a kissing scene or giggle at nudity. But to them it's just not a big deal at all. They don't even realize most of the time. And if they had sisters I wouldn't have an issue with the diapers. And I would probably teach them how to do the change. Which I've seen other parents do.