Now let’s also look at a few things…
At 14, there are things I shouldn’t have to tell you to constantly do. You said that you were making yourself dinner and watching something, so I assume it’s safe to say that you were not making dinner to eat at the table. Are you taking your dishes back to the kitchen and cleaning them up? How many dishes are you going through a day? Are you going through so many that when your mom gets home from work, there’s an entire pile in the kitchen sink? Realistically, how hard is it for you to either wash off your snack bowl and put it in the dishwasher or wash it and put it away? To be perfectly fair, if my five-year-old knows to put her bowl and spoon in the sink after having dessert, a 14-year-old should also be able to know that. And maybe take it a step further and actually wash it, or at a minimum, put it in the dishwasher.
I’m pretty sure that you know what your chores are.
Consider this: theoretically in four years, you’ll be graduating high school, and moving off to college. Your mom is trying to prepare you for the real world, where she will not be there to tell you when and how to clean. More than likely she has been telling you, since you were a very little kid. Kids as young as 1 can be taught to put their toys away - my son is 18mo n has been throwing away trash for months now. Why do you start so young? Because “how to keep a clean dorm room” or “how to live responsibly” is NOT part of college orientation. In fact there’s not even a class on it. By the time you were 18, you should have already figured this (how to clean, how to take care of yourself, how to do your chores in a timely manner) out.
I asked you to reflect on yourself. Why is your mom constantly having to tell you, or as you put it write it down, the things you are supposed to be doing?
Are you getting too distracted by games/television, then by the time you remember, it’s very late at night? if so, then you are procrastinating too much. Try doing your chores first, then use your recreation as a reward for getting them done. This was a hard lesson for my husband to learn, as we had many fights over “his free time.” Free time should not come at the expense of others. recreational activities are just that, they are recreational. They are not some thing that takes a priority over anything else. So if you have not cleaned up after yourself, that needs to be done first.
I agree with what other people have said. You already know what your chores are. Make an agenda in your calendar, set an alarm, or do whatever it is you have to do. But they need to get done first. Before wrestlemania. “But wrestlemania is at ____”. Doesn’t matter. Plan accordingly. If you know that the show will start at 6 PM, then get home early that evening, make sure all of your chores are done first, and then you’ll have plenty of time to watch it.
These are habits that you will have to learn to work on, and learn to change. It can be hard. Trust me, I’d rather be watching Downtown Abbey, but if I don’t make my daughter, her lunch, she won’t eat at school. You have to learn to follow the priorities in your life.