eveningxhush
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Hey fellow moms, I just wanted to ask your opinion, as this really made me question myself.
I'm (34f) a SAHM and I have 3 children. Son A (16) son B (9) and daughter C (22 months).
We don't have a TV in our living room.
I am not a big fan of screen time, but the older two are allowed to play games on the PC or watch movies or YouTube on the tablet.
The oldest A has a smartphone with internet access as well.
Just not all the time, but I recognize that media consumption is normal nowadays and I think to learn responsibility with the internet, you should be able to use it.
My daughter C is not allowed to have screentime yet.
I think she doesn't need it, she has a Tony box to listen to music and lots of toys etc. And we play with her a lot, I go outside twice a day because we have a dog as well.
We do have an aquarium with seawater.
Its very pretty, colorful and there is obviously a lot going on.
C LOVES it, and i put her learning tower in front of it, so she is able to watch the fish whenever she wants to, without me having to pick her up.
Sorry for the long intro, now to the story.
Today a relative (K) of my fiance came to visit with her kids.
We sat together for coffee and cake and the kids were playing, everything was fine although K was loudly wondering why we didnt have a "normal" living room .
I told her the reason and that it helps me keeping up with the household when C has all her toys and play equipment in the living room, so i can cook, fold laundry etc. Instead of having everything in her room (she sleeps in our room anyway). And that we don't need a TV.
She rolled her eyes a bit but didn't say much.
Later I cut some fruits and veggies for the kids as a snack and C grabbed some apple slices and climed her learning tower to watch the fish while eating them.
K told me that that is the same as watching TV and eating and that I'm being hypocritical pretending to be crunchy (i never called myself crunchy)while letting C watch the aquarium just not to have to deal with her.
I was baffled...
We all eat breakfast, lunch and dinner together at the table but my kids were always allowed to take their snacks and play, or read or whatever...
Now I'm wondering if it is really bad for C? I don't want her to develop unhealthy habits just to make my live easier if you know what I mean,?
Thanks for reading all of that and sorry if my wording isn't good, englisch isn't my first language.
I'm (34f) a SAHM and I have 3 children. Son A (16) son B (9) and daughter C (22 months).
We don't have a TV in our living room.
I am not a big fan of screen time, but the older two are allowed to play games on the PC or watch movies or YouTube on the tablet.
The oldest A has a smartphone with internet access as well.
Just not all the time, but I recognize that media consumption is normal nowadays and I think to learn responsibility with the internet, you should be able to use it.
My daughter C is not allowed to have screentime yet.
I think she doesn't need it, she has a Tony box to listen to music and lots of toys etc. And we play with her a lot, I go outside twice a day because we have a dog as well.
We do have an aquarium with seawater.
Its very pretty, colorful and there is obviously a lot going on.
C LOVES it, and i put her learning tower in front of it, so she is able to watch the fish whenever she wants to, without me having to pick her up.
Sorry for the long intro, now to the story.
Today a relative (K) of my fiance came to visit with her kids.
We sat together for coffee and cake and the kids were playing, everything was fine although K was loudly wondering why we didnt have a "normal" living room .
I told her the reason and that it helps me keeping up with the household when C has all her toys and play equipment in the living room, so i can cook, fold laundry etc. Instead of having everything in her room (she sleeps in our room anyway). And that we don't need a TV.
She rolled her eyes a bit but didn't say much.
Later I cut some fruits and veggies for the kids as a snack and C grabbed some apple slices and climed her learning tower to watch the fish while eating them.
K told me that that is the same as watching TV and eating and that I'm being hypocritical pretending to be crunchy (i never called myself crunchy)while letting C watch the aquarium just not to have to deal with her.
I was baffled...
We all eat breakfast, lunch and dinner together at the table but my kids were always allowed to take their snacks and play, or read or whatever...
Now I'm wondering if it is really bad for C? I don't want her to develop unhealthy habits just to make my live easier if you know what I mean,?
Thanks for reading all of that and sorry if my wording isn't good, englisch isn't my first language.