@ladyknox Women are taught from toddlerhood to be caregivers. We give our daughters baby dolls with prams, pretend nappies/bottles, high chairs and fake food.
Babysitting is usually one of the first paying "jobs" women have - in their early-mid teen years. Daughters are usually the ones to care for their siblings when the parents are busy.
You are not a failure. I know a lot of women who are genuinely so happy just being wives to their husbands and mothers to their children - but I am also not one of those women.
I dont get how they do it. I'm not a naturally maternal person, so I will only ever have one child. Parenting doesn't come easy to me. I was tortured and abused in all ways by my biological mother for 23 years, starting from the moment the creature bought me home from the hospital. I know what
NOT to do, but the right things to do aren't always obvious. I couldn't do it for an extra child.
I see it as a win. That we know ourselves this well, we save ourselves and any extra little lives the trouble of the struggle. By accepting that this is who we are, we can move forward. The guilt is from the decades of being taught & told
this is what we are supposed to do - be baby making machines.