4th loss: it seemed too good to be true

wavecure

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TW: loss

I’m writing this post to tell my experience with my ectopic so others could maybe be encouraged to advocate more if they have suspicions and avoid losing a tube or worse.

Welp, I’m back here after yet another loss — though this one turned out to be a ruptured ectopic at 6+0. They had to remove my right tube and said that I had a great amount of blood in my abdomen and also quite a lot of clots, which seemed strange to them according to my labs and the fact that I was on baby aspirin and heparin injections. Now I’m resting in the hospital bed waiting for more results in order to get discharged.

I started having abdominal pain Sunday morning but I thought it was from constipation due to the progesterone suppositories and the increase in iron in my prenatal vitamins. The sharp pain subsided but I still had abdominal discomfort when I walked and a sense of fullness. No fever.

I started spotting Tuesday night after going to the gym and decided to go to the ER. I had suspected an ectopic because of my low betas and it looks like I wasn’t wrong.
  • 15DPO: 12UI/L
  • 17DPO: 25UI/L
  • 24DPO: 813UI//L
  • 27DPO: 1,430UI/L
I’m just exhausted from all the losses, going back to square one, feeling like I’m a hypochondriac, having to advocate for myself, and nobody listening until it’s too late… At least I’m still alive.

We’ll have to take a break until my body heals and then go back to discussing IVF which we had initially planned to start this January before I got pregnant. I guess this would be the safest route at this point. But I thought I was finally one of those lucky ones you always hear about that got pregnant the cycle before starting IVF and had their take-home baby. It was too good to be true. Take care, everyone. ❤️‍🩹
 
@wavecure I am so sorry for your loss and beyond glad that you did advocate for yourself. Plenty of women go on to have child with one tube. Please take care of yourself. Sending love and positivity your way ❤️
 
@1brokenone Thank you. Sometimes it’s hard to advocate when you feel like every time you do it, others try to turn you down a notch, as if you were just paranoid. Just need to remind myself that I need to trust my gut more and really stick to my guns on things like these.
 
@wavecure I’m so sorry for both your lost babies and your physical trauma. Wishing you a speedy recovery and a smooth road to your baby in your arms.
 
@tigr Thank you 🤍 It’s incredible how much our bodies and minds and withstand. I hope you have your take-home baby soon in your arms too.
 
@wavecure Never had an ectopic fortunately, but I’ve had 4 losses as well so I commiserate. I’m sick of keep losing pregnancies as well, and it’s so hard to tell people that we’ve been trying 8 months for #2, but have been pregnant 3 times (1 loss was before my LC). It’s like people think I must be doing something wrong to have so many losses.
 
@michaelwayne57 Thank you. Oh, I definitely feel like others think I must be doing something wrong and that shows when they try to give basic advice like “are you taking folic acid?” or when they’d side-eye me when I’d have a drink while TTC. It’s just shitty luck. I hope you get your take-home baby soon.
 
@wavecure I’m so sorry. I also got pregnant the cycle before starting IVF, and it ended in a loss a couple of months ago. It’s truly heartbreaking and disheartening. I hope you recover, both physically and mentally, as quickly as possible.
 
@jmiles Thank you. I’m sorry for your loss too. It truly is heartbreaking because you think you can finally catch a break and suddenly your world crumbles down.
 
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