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Y’all, it’s not our fault.
This one goes out to everyone with babies who are more challenging sleepers. My little guy is almost 6 months old, and I am finally realizing that his sleep challenges aren’t my fault. I’m giving him hours of active time during the day, he gets plenty of outdoor time, I offer bottles all the time even if he doesn’t seem hungry, I watch for sleepy cues, I have a bedtime routine, I’ve read every blog and book and Instagram account… and he still wakes up to eat 2-4x a night, stays up during the night sometimes, refuses to sleep anywhere but our house, takes 30-45 minutes to finally fall asleep sometimes despite his exhaustion, sometimes has overtired meltdowns, and rarely ever naps longer than 35 minutes. 12 hours a day total is his usual, not this glorious 14-15 hours I hear of.
I’m trying so hard, and I’m seeing all of my friends and family whose babies sleep 12 hours a night with 2-3 long naps during the day, and their babies can sleep anywhere while they go on adventures, and everyone says “just get them used to it! They’ll learn! Why are you leaving to take him home for a nap? Just stay, he’ll be fine” and I’m finally realizing that’s just not true for every baby.
And that’s okay. My little guy is who he is, and I’m doing my job taking care of him, and if that doesn’t lead to incredible sleep, that doesn’t mean I’m doing something wrong. It’s not my fault. And if this is you too, it’s not your fault either. Solidarity, friends, and a happy holiday to all who celebrate.
This one goes out to everyone with babies who are more challenging sleepers. My little guy is almost 6 months old, and I am finally realizing that his sleep challenges aren’t my fault. I’m giving him hours of active time during the day, he gets plenty of outdoor time, I offer bottles all the time even if he doesn’t seem hungry, I watch for sleepy cues, I have a bedtime routine, I’ve read every blog and book and Instagram account… and he still wakes up to eat 2-4x a night, stays up during the night sometimes, refuses to sleep anywhere but our house, takes 30-45 minutes to finally fall asleep sometimes despite his exhaustion, sometimes has overtired meltdowns, and rarely ever naps longer than 35 minutes. 12 hours a day total is his usual, not this glorious 14-15 hours I hear of.
I’m trying so hard, and I’m seeing all of my friends and family whose babies sleep 12 hours a night with 2-3 long naps during the day, and their babies can sleep anywhere while they go on adventures, and everyone says “just get them used to it! They’ll learn! Why are you leaving to take him home for a nap? Just stay, he’ll be fine” and I’m finally realizing that’s just not true for every baby.
And that’s okay. My little guy is who he is, and I’m doing my job taking care of him, and if that doesn’t lead to incredible sleep, that doesn’t mean I’m doing something wrong. It’s not my fault. And if this is you too, it’s not your fault either. Solidarity, friends, and a happy holiday to all who celebrate.