@poptart1919 I was heavier than you and my original OB told me I’d need to lose 75lbs before trying. I was in the same boat as you being 34 turning 35. My husband and I were not not trying and 6 months later we conceived. I had gestational diabetes during pregnancy but other than that I had a normal, not high risk pregnancy. My baby was born bigger (9lb9oz) but I’ve come to understand my family has a history of bigger babies.
If you want to start trying, go for it! I ended up getting a new OB because mine moved too far and the new OB was more body inclusive and didn’t mention weight until I mentioned it. Advocate for yourself and find someone that will help you get to where you need to be.
@poptart1919 I’m glad! They will test you for gestational diabetes earlier. I got tested/diagnosed at 10-11w due to a slightly elevated a1c. It sucked to be honest but I’d do it all over again for my baby one slight positive was instead of gaining weight I was losing weight my whole pregnancy. I lost around 27lbs. Of course I gained that back after due to eating all the foods I couldn’t have during pregnancy when my baby was born and being sleep deprived but I’m working on it! Good luck, if you want to try don’t not try because of the advice of one doc. There are high risk docs out there for a reason if you need them.
@poptart1919 My BMI is a bit higher than yours and I went through IVF last year. I also have PCOS and pre-existing hypertension. None of my doctors were worried. They did tell me I'd be considered high risk but this was not a reason to not try. The only difference is I'm a little older than you. I'm 35 now. 34 when we started the process. I would talk to your OBGYN if you have one or go straight to an RE if you're concerned and haven't been able to conceive after trying for a while. So far my pregnancy has been completely normal. I'm currently 20 weeks and 2 days. If you want to expand your family now don't feel like you have to wait because of your weight. There are plenty of us plus size girls who have healthy and uneventful pregnancies.
@poptart1919 I'm 34 with 1.5 diabetes and hypertension plus I'm 5'3 and weigh 236 (was a little lower pre-pregnancy, I've gained about 20lbs so far at 5mos) but that being said, unless you're trying to get fertility treatments, you don't need your doctor's permission. I was told basically that I needed to loose more weight because my issues of 1.5 diabetes and hypertension led too my first two miscarriages. But I got pregnant again, before we were planning and so far, I've had a pretty healthy pregnancy with all of my health problems. You're way taller than me and I bet you look a lot smaller than me. I would start trying, there are a ton of ovulation kits over the counter as well as blood tests you can buy through places like labcorp that do not need your doctor permission for fertility testing. You will have to pay out of pocket but it's another way to get around your doctor.
@poptart1919 Did she say why she thinks you need to wait? Seeing a doctor where I live is a little more complex (have been here 3.5 years and never met a GP in person) but it wouldn't even occur to me to get their opinion on it unless I had a medical concern relating. Also, congrats on looking out for your health! It sounds like you've made some real accomplishments and you should be really proud of yourself!
I have a high BMI too, and my cycles were/are like 28 day clockwork. We just went for it.
@algernon22 She mentioned my BMI first, and how it’s close to 40, but also said “I don’t want to focus on the BMI…” then mentioned about me losing 40 more lbs. How long did it take for yall to get pregnant? We’ve been trying.
@poptart1919 We had an easy time getting pregnant, harder time staying that way. Just over 4 months with a loss at 7 weeks and a chemical before getting pregnant with my daughter. I don’t think my BMI was a barrier at all! My age probably wasn’t ideal (39). My pregnancy was uneventful too!
@poptart1919 Hello OP!
I’m a diabetic type 2 and I managed to get my A1C within normal ranges as well. Went from 266 to 238 pounds and it worked wonders on my PCOS. My period cycle was more regular and I found out 2 weeks ago that I’m pregnant. Currently at 6 weeks!
My point is, don’t give up. Find yourself a better doctor willing to support you through this instead.
(One thing to keep in mind, with gestational diabetes you might end up needing insulin shots -which is now my case. Make sure you get yourself a good insurance plan).
Best of luck to you
@poptart1919 If you are just looking for information on your fertility hormones, etc, you can use at home testing through modern fertility (or I am sure there are other companies, but this is the one I used). You can also start tracking your ovulation through LH testing to make sure you are indeed ovulating each month. I get why you may have wanted to discuss with an OB, but even when not overweight, they usually don't like discussing it unless you've been unsuccessful for 12 months.
@tschau We’ve been trying, but for just about 8 months now. When I was heavier, I was diagnosed with PCOS. I also had insulin resistance. I’m not sure if PCOS ever goes away. Which is also why I went to see her. I will look into that home testing.
one slight positive was instead of gaining weight I was losing weight my whole pregnancy. I lost around 27lbs. Of course I gained that back after due to eating all the foods I couldn’t have during pregnancy when my baby was born and being sleep deprived but I’m working on it! Good luck, if you want to try don’t not try because of the advice of one doc. There are high risk docs out there for a reason if you need them.
then mentioned about me losing 40 more lbs. How long did it take for yall to get pregnant? We’ve been trying.