@poptart1919 I was heavier than you and my original OB told me I’d need to lose 75lbs before trying. I was in the same boat as you being 34 turning 35. My husband and I were not not trying and 6 months later we conceived. I had gestational diabetes during pregnancy but other than that I had a normal, not high risk pregnancy. My baby was born bigger (9lb9oz) but I’ve come to understand my family has a history of bigger babies.
If you want to start trying, go for it! I ended up getting a new OB because mine moved too far and the new OB was more body inclusive and didn’t mention weight until I mentioned it. Advocate for yourself and find someone that will help you get to where you need to be.
@poptart1919 I’m glad! They will test you for gestational diabetes earlier. I got tested/diagnosed at 10-11w due to a slightly elevated a1c. It sucked to be honest but I’d do it all over again for my baby one slight positive was instead of gaining weight I was losing weight my whole pregnancy. I lost around 27lbs. Of course I gained that back after due to eating all the foods I couldn’t have during pregnancy when my baby was born and being sleep deprived but I’m working on it! Good luck, if you want to try don’t not try because of the advice of one doc. There are high risk docs out there for a reason if you need them.
@poptart1919 My BMI is a bit higher than yours and I went through IVF last year. I also have PCOS and pre-existing hypertension. None of my doctors were worried. They did tell me I'd be considered high risk but this was not a reason to not try. The only difference is I'm a little older than you. I'm 35 now. 34 when we started the process. I would talk to your OBGYN if you have one or go straight to an RE if you're concerned and haven't been able to conceive after trying for a while. So far my pregnancy has been completely normal. I'm currently 20 weeks and 2 days. If you want to expand your family now don't feel like you have to wait because of your weight. There are plenty of us plus size girls who have healthy and uneventful pregnancies.
@poptart1919 I'm 34 with 1.5 diabetes and hypertension plus I'm 5'3 and weigh 236 (was a little lower pre-pregnancy, I've gained about 20lbs so far at 5mos) but that being said, unless you're trying to get fertility treatments, you don't need your doctor's permission. I was told basically that I needed to loose more weight because my issues of 1.5 diabetes and hypertension led too my first two miscarriages. But I got pregnant again, before we were planning and so far, I've had a pretty healthy pregnancy with all of my health problems. You're way taller than me and I bet you look a lot smaller than me. I would start trying, there are a ton of ovulation kits over the counter as well as blood tests you can buy through places like labcorp that do not need your doctor permission for fertility testing. You will have to pay out of pocket but it's another way to get around your doctor.
@poptart1919 Did she say why she thinks you need to wait? Seeing a doctor where I live is a little more complex (have been here 3.5 years and never met a GP in person) but it wouldn't even occur to me to get their opinion on it unless I had a medical concern relating. Also, congrats on looking out for your health! It sounds like you've made some real accomplishments and you should be really proud of yourself!
I have a high BMI too, and my cycles were/are like 28 day clockwork. We just went for it.
@algernon22 She mentioned my BMI first, and how it’s close to 40, but also said “I don’t want to focus on the BMI…” then mentioned about me losing 40 more lbs. How long did it take for yall to get pregnant? We’ve been trying.
@poptart1919 We had an easy time getting pregnant, harder time staying that way. Just over 4 months with a loss at 7 weeks and a chemical before getting pregnant with my daughter. I don’t think my BMI was a barrier at all! My age probably wasn’t ideal (39). My pregnancy was uneventful too!
@poptart1919 Hello OP!
I’m a diabetic type 2 and I managed to get my A1C within normal ranges as well. Went from 266 to 238 pounds and it worked wonders on my PCOS. My period cycle was more regular and I found out 2 weeks ago that I’m pregnant. Currently at 6 weeks!
My point is, don’t give up. Find yourself a better doctor willing to support you through this instead.
(One thing to keep in mind, with gestational diabetes you might end up needing insulin shots -which is now my case. Make sure you get yourself a good insurance plan).
Best of luck to you
@poptart1919 If you are just looking for information on your fertility hormones, etc, you can use at home testing through modern fertility (or I am sure there are other companies, but this is the one I used). You can also start tracking your ovulation through LH testing to make sure you are indeed ovulating each month. I get why you may have wanted to discuss with an OB, but even when not overweight, they usually don't like discussing it unless you've been unsuccessful for 12 months.
@tschau We’ve been trying, but for just about 8 months now. When I was heavier, I was diagnosed with PCOS. I also had insulin resistance. I’m not sure if PCOS ever goes away. Which is also why I went to see her. I will look into that home testing.
@poptart1919 Have you tracked your cycle in any way? I’ve been using natural cycles for over a year before TTC and it was really valuable in understanding the phases of my cycle, what date i typically ovulated so we could plan our best fertility window. I did use ovulation test strips as well to better pinpoint the time but as others have pointed out, there could be other factors but it was really helpful for me to conceive.
@poptart1919 I’m 5’10”, 32 when I got pregnant and 33 when delivered, and I was 325 when I first was pregnant, I got to 345 at my heaviest with my son, and I’m down to 335 six weeks out. I haven’t been cleared to start working out yet and I am not in a rush tbh. My midwife never mentioned my weight before, during, or after having my son. If you have a clean bill of health, go for it and find a new doctor! If y’all are as ready as you can be, don’t let her stop you!
Edit: we were TTC for 7 months before I conceived, I was told by my midwife to have more sex! At the end it wasn’t enjoyable but we got our baby!
@mrssnowqueen1 I think that’s what I need to do is find a new doctor. And thanks for that!! I don’t want sex to eventually become unenjoyable. We definitely try a lot, but it’s just discouraging! Hopefully we know more about my husband tomorrow when they call. He did a semen analysis.
@poptart1919 I’m glad your husband did the analysis, I remember in May when I got another negative pregnancy test asking my husband to schedule with a fertility clinic to test his and he was going to the next week but then I got the positive test. Don’t be discouraged! I was tracking my ovulation like a hawk and I was pretty much demanding sex as soon as I was ovulating. When I finally stopped tracking because May is a very busy month for my husband and I, I remember looking in the mirror and joking with myself that this would be the month that it happens because I wasn’t tracking and I was starting to feel good about my wellness journey, and it did. I think my obsessing over my cycle took the romance out of it, so let me be your sign to err on caution lol.
@poptart1919 I was 365 when I started trying. I got down to 330 and got pregnant. I honestly think the biggest reason for me was that I got my blood sugar down to a normal Level - 5.1 just like yours! I recommend more advanced tracking, and also, seeing a fertility specialist just to get ideas of some small things you can do now before you consider the bigger stuff like IVF or IUI.
And yes, I have gestational diabetes and was diagnosed at 12 weeks. But honestly, it’s been not that bad once i really got into the swing of it. I am medication managed with Metformin (which I took prior to pregnancy also, and so I continued on it). If you are disciplined, lots of women have totally normal and healthy babies with gestational diabetes.
one slight positive was instead of gaining weight I was losing weight my whole pregnancy. I lost around 27lbs. Of course I gained that back after due to eating all the foods I couldn’t have during pregnancy when my baby was born and being sleep deprived but I’m working on it! Good luck, if you want to try don’t not try because of the advice of one doc. There are high risk docs out there for a reason if you need them.
then mentioned about me losing 40 more lbs. How long did it take for yall to get pregnant? We’ve been trying.
