@nyvic Our NICU nurses did a few things
1. Tell us we didn't go enough
2. When we went, they would wait until we went to the cafeteria to change, bathe, and feed our baby, which we were obviously there for, so we wanted to do all these things.
3. When my husband went to change to do his first skin to skin, the nurse waited until he was gone to tell me that was my job, not his, and dads didn't matter as much as moms did.
4. They shamed us for being a little sad that he wasn't getting better for a while. They acted like we were disappointed in him and talking crap
5. Not for our son, but one of the nurses taking care of a baby also in our son's room said "well, I'm with you just about every day I might as well be your mother"... it's their job to be there every day. They're getting paid for it, not us. It's hard to be there. I didn't even have maternity leave because I had just switched jobs.
6. When we were super excited because we were told by the DOCTOR he was ready to go home, one of the nurses said to my face, "He's not going anywhere any time soon, sorry. "... I was absolutely pissed me off, and he graduated not even 7 hours after she said that.