@diademjewel I’m not saying he can’t in any circumstance, but true impulse control develops around 7 in typically developing children, later in neurodivergent children. Also many kids you see “controlling” their behavior have been operantly conditioned due to fear of punishment. That’s a shortcut that gets desired behavior, and it comes at the cost of healthy attachment.
Fwiw a slightly restricted space while maybe feeling like a punishment in some senses is really more of a natural consequence of your specific circumstances as a way to keep everyone safe. It still may do some of that conditioning, but like you say, you must do something, so if it’s strictly about safety and you aren’t using planned ignoring/isolation or forcing an arbitrary time limit I wouldn’t put it in the category of causing attachment issues.
I also agree we haven’t built a society that makes being responsible for our children practical in many many ways, but that doesn’t change that by not meeting those needs we are compromising the health and safety of our children. Most parents have to make decisions that compromise the ideal at one point or another, this might be one for you.
Ultimately you don’t have to answer to me or anyone, you just do what you can do, but that’s what is fair (from the standpoint of healthy boundaries and environment) and developmentally appropriate for your kids without your personal constraints considered.