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Do forgive me, I’ve never been on Reddit before but I thought perhaps I could turn here for advice.
I’m a single mother to a wonderful boy (10 years old) who I will refer to only as S. Now, I am not his biological mother. I adopted him when he was very young, around when he was a year old. I cannot have children of my own, so this was something I had wanted for a long time.
He is my entire world, my little angel to be honest, as he has gotten me past my hardest days. He’s the sweetest boy with a big heart and an even bigger imagination.
Now when he was 6, I had him tested for autism, which turned out he did have. It wasn’t too much of a surprise, as it is a bit obvious he’s different.
He can’t look people in the eyes, he struggles to keep his vocal tone low, he can be easily overwhelmed, has a very hard time socializing with children his age. It can be challenging sometimes, but it’s nothing I would ever give up. I love my baby so, so much.
He’s very intelligent, he already likes his new school, is slowly making friends, and he recently has an obsession with wolves. His favorite movie is Balto, and it makes everything worth it to see his eyes light up and his little smile spread across his face.
Now, I have been dating this man from my work, who I will refer to as G, for a year now. I’ve known him for a good 3 years thanks to our friends. He has no children himself, is a hard worker, and honestly.. a good man.
He knows about my son, and he understands that I wasn’t ready for them to meet yet. He is hoping to meet him one day, he always asks me how he’s doing and sometimes buys little wolf toys for him. I do find that very sweet and considerate. He’s been understanding if I didn’t have time for a date night when S needed me, even reassuring me if I had to cancel some dates because S had a meltdown or simply didn’t want me to leave. He knows that my son is my number 1 priority and he is understanding, which I honestly admire.
To be frank, I was not expecting this relationship to last a year. But I do truly love him, and I believe I can see us married. But that’s not my focus right now. S has known I’ve been seeing a man, but I told him he will not meet him until he felt ready to. Well, last night S came up to me and asked to meet G.
I’m just unsure how to have them meet. For one, S does not do good with new places, but I’m not sure if I want G to come to my house. The house is a safe space for S, and I don’t know if bringing G over would be too much or make S feel like G is coming into his safe bubble. I’m just at a loss to how they should meet.
Any advice would be amazing, thank you.
UPDATE
S will be meeting G tomorrow after he gets out of church. We will meet up at a park nearby my house than S loves and has said he is happy with.
Thank you all so, so much for the advice. I can never thank you kind souls for helping me. Bless you all
UPDATE 2
Forgive me for not updating sooner, I got a bit caught up with things.
Well for starters, the meet up went wonderfully!
Me and S went to the park around noon and about twenty minutes later, G showed up. At first S was nervous, given G is much taller than him and I, but G started asking him questions about wolves and that just set everything.
S went on for about an hour about them and he ended up playing with him with the toys G had bought him. G did bring another toy, a stuffie that he made sure S would like. He remembered when I said S likes a certain feel and look for his little stuffies, and that just really got my heart going.
S asked him questions and ended up being completely comfortable with him, he even hugged him when G had to go. That shocked us both, but I was happy. G looked like he would cry and gave him a hug back. We said our goodbyes, I gave him a kiss and he left after a couple of hours.
S says he really likes him and is asking if they can meet up again. G is thanking me for letting me meet him and says he already loves him. I’m so grateful and thankful everything went great. I might cry.
We’ll be setting another meet up as soon as we can. Thank you all again for the ideas and support, I appreciate it all
I’m a single mother to a wonderful boy (10 years old) who I will refer to only as S. Now, I am not his biological mother. I adopted him when he was very young, around when he was a year old. I cannot have children of my own, so this was something I had wanted for a long time.
He is my entire world, my little angel to be honest, as he has gotten me past my hardest days. He’s the sweetest boy with a big heart and an even bigger imagination.
Now when he was 6, I had him tested for autism, which turned out he did have. It wasn’t too much of a surprise, as it is a bit obvious he’s different.
He can’t look people in the eyes, he struggles to keep his vocal tone low, he can be easily overwhelmed, has a very hard time socializing with children his age. It can be challenging sometimes, but it’s nothing I would ever give up. I love my baby so, so much.
He’s very intelligent, he already likes his new school, is slowly making friends, and he recently has an obsession with wolves. His favorite movie is Balto, and it makes everything worth it to see his eyes light up and his little smile spread across his face.
Now, I have been dating this man from my work, who I will refer to as G, for a year now. I’ve known him for a good 3 years thanks to our friends. He has no children himself, is a hard worker, and honestly.. a good man.
He knows about my son, and he understands that I wasn’t ready for them to meet yet. He is hoping to meet him one day, he always asks me how he’s doing and sometimes buys little wolf toys for him. I do find that very sweet and considerate. He’s been understanding if I didn’t have time for a date night when S needed me, even reassuring me if I had to cancel some dates because S had a meltdown or simply didn’t want me to leave. He knows that my son is my number 1 priority and he is understanding, which I honestly admire.
To be frank, I was not expecting this relationship to last a year. But I do truly love him, and I believe I can see us married. But that’s not my focus right now. S has known I’ve been seeing a man, but I told him he will not meet him until he felt ready to. Well, last night S came up to me and asked to meet G.
I’m just unsure how to have them meet. For one, S does not do good with new places, but I’m not sure if I want G to come to my house. The house is a safe space for S, and I don’t know if bringing G over would be too much or make S feel like G is coming into his safe bubble. I’m just at a loss to how they should meet.
Any advice would be amazing, thank you.
UPDATE
S will be meeting G tomorrow after he gets out of church. We will meet up at a park nearby my house than S loves and has said he is happy with.
Thank you all so, so much for the advice. I can never thank you kind souls for helping me. Bless you all
UPDATE 2
Forgive me for not updating sooner, I got a bit caught up with things.
Well for starters, the meet up went wonderfully!
Me and S went to the park around noon and about twenty minutes later, G showed up. At first S was nervous, given G is much taller than him and I, but G started asking him questions about wolves and that just set everything.
S went on for about an hour about them and he ended up playing with him with the toys G had bought him. G did bring another toy, a stuffie that he made sure S would like. He remembered when I said S likes a certain feel and look for his little stuffies, and that just really got my heart going.
S asked him questions and ended up being completely comfortable with him, he even hugged him when G had to go. That shocked us both, but I was happy. G looked like he would cry and gave him a hug back. We said our goodbyes, I gave him a kiss and he left after a couple of hours.
S says he really likes him and is asking if they can meet up again. G is thanking me for letting me meet him and says he already loves him. I’m so grateful and thankful everything went great. I might cry.
We’ll be setting another meet up as soon as we can. Thank you all again for the ideas and support, I appreciate it all
