@ipurr2 My story of siblings not being what they are cracked up to be...
I definitely grew up thinking having siblings was absolutely incredible, but upon reflection and seeing how our relationships have drifted as adults, I don't see something as special as I used to.
Youngest of two and only the girl, I was "picked" on, all harmless fun, and as an adult I laugh about it, but I also spend so much time wanting to be involved, wanting to be a part of their games, but was mostly rejected, unless it was at my expense. It often made me incredibly sad.
As we grew up I did have a stage in my teens where I was reasonably close to both at them at some point. One brother is just a year older than me and we had friends in common so partied together. Then he basically told me to buzz off cos he just wanted to hang out with them without his little sister, that really hurt.
My older brother and I also had a short burst of closeness, he'd broken up from his long term girlfriend and suddenly we hung out a lot, till another girlfriend came along. I then realised he'd just been trying his luck with my friends.
Now in our adult lives, I barely see them, I'm the only one putting in effort to see them, one says his wife is his PA arrange everything through her, but I don't think she likes me and she is difficult to make plans with (I guess not as difficult as him) the other won't ever commit to any plans, he'll respond with "I'll let you know" but doesn't.
When we finally all met up recently the two of them chatted in a corner and barely spoke with me, they actually spend a lot of time together, they just never thought to give me a call.
I'm at a point in my life that I've given up trying to have a proper relationship with them, if they won't make effort, I'm not going to continue trying to force something that isn't there.
I thought we would be this close knit family....we just aren't