@petermushk If a mother tells you her child might be a sociopath, believe her.
Her behavior is not normal. Sounds like she has mental health issues. This sounds so much like the behavior my neice began exhibiting around age 10.
- How are her grades? Behavior in school? Around other family members?
- Is her father an involved parent?
- Does mental illness run on one or both sides of the family?
- Has mom had a lot of men around her? Moved them in?
- if she calls you dad or is allowed to call you dad… I’d be concerned.
I’m in the USA.
I have a neice that is a 33 year old adult now. She’s alienated herself from the family because we don’t allow her to do as she pleases. It started out when she was 8 or 9 years old with learning and behavior issues. Her Dad died of Addisons disease when she was 3 years old. My sister took her to see doctors therapist etc thinking it was the pressure of not having a dad. School age is the typical time kids feel the pressure of not having two parents. The docs/therapists diagnosed an overall sadness, ADD and ODD. My sister didn’t want to believe it. Refused to medicate my neice.
When my sister dated, my neice clung to the men… fell on every word they spoke. We were so afraid for her because her affinity to men … strangers, family and friends was over the top. Therapist warned this could lead to promiscuity.
She was barely making it in her early teens… it was as if the hormones exacerbated the behavioral issues. Antisocial, defiant, lying, aggressive and angry any time she couldn’t get her way. She was selfish, manipulative, bullying, entitled and non-compliant with her ADHD meds. She refused to go to school or therapy with every bone in her body. She weaponized her sexual promiscuity at age 15, against her mother; eventually expelled from school the same year because she threatened to kill herself and another student. She was hospitalized for 72 hours and sent to a rehab/mental health facility. We found out she was cutting to relieve her internal pain. She refused therapy until she realized it was part of her conditions for release. She stopped taking the meds as soon as she was released. By age 18, she continually threatened to get pregnant and leave the baby on her mom because she might hurt the kid. After an emergency room visit that turned into a 72 hour hold in a psych unit, she was medicated enough to see reason. She agreed to therapy for a few months and willingly took her medications.
Docs eventually diagnosed her with oppositional defiance disorder (ODD), major depressive disorder (MDD), PMDD and Bipolar type 2.
That honeymoon period lasted a year before the nightmare started again.
We thought the final straw came when the bad crowd she dealt with and the drug use, brought the DEA and FBI to my sisters front door one evening. A bunch of her friends were charged and convicted of various felonies. After the court hearings, she disappeared.
The nightmare turned into a night terror. The last straw broke when she got pregnant at 20. She neglected the baby from birth and abused him physically later on. My sister reported her to CPS and got immediate custody of her grandson. We’re doing our best to help her raise him. We pray she doesn’t have any more children.
Meanwhile, we’re protecting our home and sanity. We love her but can tolerate behavior any more. We don’t allow her around the family as long as she is not behaving properly, med compliant and attending regular therapy sessions. She knows the rules, checks in with my sister on occasions. Begs to be invited but refused to comply with the rules. She screams into the phone that we aren’t fair.
