@wheeler1552 We just went from 1-2 last week and I would agree with this for the most partābut I think the age of your first/others makes a huge difference. Our first is almost 2, so technically we now have the dreaded ā2 under 2,ā at least for a few more days.
Itās all true that the second is less of a shock because youāve been through it all before, youāve developed the skills and expectations. So from that perspective itās easier than 0-1 for sure. But the flipside is that with two young kids that need constant attention (actually the newborn is easier than the toddler by a long shot hahah), add the birth recovery, sleepless nights, pumping/breastfeeding, feeding/entertaining/minding a toddler while doing all the above, potty training, making them feel loved and involved to avoid jealousy issues, itās a lot for two parents that still need to work/provide and find time for sanity and each other.
So it remains to be seen if it will be easier for us, right now itās not. But when the newborn is able to sleep through the night and wife isnāt pumping every two hours, itāll probably be ā1-2 is easier than 0-1.ā