If you used protection that didn’t fail

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magnus359

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You don’t have to worry about pregnancy. This includes birth control that is taken correctly and you didn’t use condoms along with it.

There seems to be some sort of line of thinking with this newer generation that unprotected sex and protected sex are the exact same thing. I’m not sure if it is social media causing this, the lack of sex education in their area or a mix of both. But honestly I’m here on behalf of probably everyone in this sub to say, put down the TikTok or other various forms of social media it’s making yall not trust your birth control methods. Limit the time, yall chronically online

In the past what would be now considered I guess slightly older generations were told not to believe ever single thing that they see on the internet. That form of advice seems to have been completely lost to time so we have that sort of epidemic now.

You’re gonna be okay, you don’t have to worry about pregnancy.
Since links are not allowed in the post I will be putting links to the effectiveness of the different forms of birth control as well as how they work so people know that they are protected. Because this is getting to the point of ridiculousness to where I am fearing that this generation doesn’t understand how protected they really are and aren’t gonna listen to those who have lived life and know the realistic chances.

For me currently I’ve tried a few birth control methods, while currently I’m on the pill I use only that and no pregnancies. I also used condoms with no pullout for over a decade and no pregnancies. There is no point in worrying over such a small percentage of a chance. And if it’s friends that are shaming you for using only condoms with no pull out or shaming you for using just the pill, or the patch, or the shot, the iud, or the arm implant..then are they really your friends?

“Oh but I’m not sure if the condom broke” it ain’t subtle, it’s like a popped balloon

“Oh but what if condom flipped” you’ll be fine

“What if I had sex during my placebo week for birth control” you’re fine just start the next pack on time.

“I’m like six packs in but I did it on the 4th day instead of waiting 7 days…am I preggers?!” No, the 7 full days only applies to the very first pack of birth control.

“I took my pill an hour late! Am I in trouble?!” No, combination pills have a 12 hour window to take them while progesterone only have a 3hr window (unless desogestrel which also has a 12 hour window or slynd which is a 24hr window)

“We used a condom but he didn’t pull out!!!” That doesn’t matter, that’s how condoms were used for centuries. From the animal skin ones to the latex ones today.

“I had unprotected sex with my bf while on -insert hormonal birth control here or copper iud- and he didn’t pull out, we wanted to feel how it was”
Okay, good for you on making sure you’re protected from pregnancy. You didn’t have unprotected sex, and you were still protected by your birth as long as you’re taking it as prescribed, can still feel the strings of the iud, got your shots on time, and can still feel the implant in your arm. You’ll be fine.

I will also provide links on what to do in case of sickness in terms of the pill but really for that, read your pamphlet, ask questions when your gyno or doctor ask if you have any questions. Literally advocate for yourself.

Obviously in the cases of hookups make sure to use condoms even if you’re on birth control for std prevention.

Just wanted to put in my two cents because this is getting ridiculous.

Also you can’t get pregnant from fingering, grinding, anal, oral, touching a penis, with or without precum. Just no, it’s not possible for the love of Christ.
 
@redeemedbyjesusmysaviour Oh believe me I know. The failure rate to these methods are so extremely small, but I feel like social medias can kinda blow things out of proportion and this new generation really only knows that. So I feel like it’s feeding into this mentality that you always need to be scared and afraid, when they are doing fine if they are using protection that didn’t fail.
 
@magnus359 exactly!! as a younger person i know how badly things can get blown out of proportion and it's insane. i'm on birth control and i'm honestly not worried about anything because i did my research, but a pregnancy test once in a while is still something that helps ease my mind. education about birth control methods is SO important, so thank you for this post!
 
@magnus359 I’m having a completely illogical pregnancy scare I think because of tiktok and social media and this is the best post I’ve seen to calm me down 😅 the lack of proper sex education is real
 
@magnus359 Thank you for this post. I know i m one of those who literally asks in each month. But i have a dffrnt query . What can be the reason of brown bleeding 10 days before periods date? As i have used protection, and checked it thoroughly. What can be other reason rather than implantation bleeding?
 
@craniumkick Sometimes spotting can happen in cycles. It could be other things such as maybe you’re mistaking uti bleeding for spotting, maybe you had rough sex and your cervix was irritated. There are other factors that aren’t pregnancy.

Now with you, you usually think that if your farts smell different then it is a pregnancy symptom. When you’ve had multiple forms of proof that your methods are working. You have to instead of thinking of things as constantly a risk of pregnancy (since Reddit and other social medias will have you think that nothing works) you have to think “I always got my period, all my tests were always negative, my methods actually work.”
 
@magnus359 Nothing happend like this. I mean i last had sex on 27th. Then i was admitted in hospital for 1 month. After my discharge i am facing this. I dnt hv uti neither rough sex. I am still spotting for 2 days. First it was bright red with clots then it became pink.
 
@craniumkick I mean you’re having health issues, it was probably a light period. And the more stressed and anxious you are your periods can get lighter. I have had periods stop due to stress, after the first day. It can happen if you’re constantly stressed. As long as you are having protected sex and you know this by now, you do not have to worry about pregnancy
 
@craniumkick I’ve been there before, it’s not fun. I had to be admitted for a bit but I made the decision myself to go into the hospital since I knew I wasn’t going to be able to take care of myself and others around me. So I relate to that, you’ll be okay and don’t let your parents words get to you too much. You’re protected, you’ll be fine.
 
@magnus359 My husband got a vasectomy and we were cleared after 3 months to discontinue any birth control and I STILL get nervous if we have sex during my "fertile" week bc I'm terrified of an unknown recanalization or something even though I know the odds are so, so low.
 
@jou123456 It takes a minute to fully trust things that’s for sure, when I removed condoms when it came to my spouse and I started birth control I was nervous at first. But knowing how things work, the realistic chances, and realizing horror stories are really just that it helped me trust my methods more. Chances of things happening are astronomically low, with me getting out of my comfort zone helps. Ripping the bandaid off, and then taking a test a month later and seeing the negative that proves that everything still works just as normal. Now everyone does have different comfort levels, but that’s kinda what worked for me.
 
@magnus359 Thank you for sharing your experience! I agree, time and experience are the only things that will help negate the anxiety. I have struggled with anxiety and "worst-case scenario" ideations most of my life, so being at a time in my life where I'm actively having to practice trusting the medically confirmed success of a procedure is an area I've been growing in.
 
@magnus359 can someone please give me their opinion. me and my bf are virgins and we decided to have sex yesterday he wore a condom for one position and then he changed into another condom for the second position as he was inserting we heard a pop sound and immediately moved away, we checked it and there was a little hole on the side. there was not a lot of precum , i don't think it even touched how fast i moved but 20 minutes after we went and got a plan b.
 
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