@fudge No, I wouldn’t. Obligatory, I love my child with everything I have. I would never wish him away now that he is here.
However, I was a fence sitter and very “meh” about having a kid in the first place. But, I was worried that I would regret not having the “mother” life experience and my husband really wanted kids. To be fair, when we got together, I did feel strongly that I also wanted children. But as I grew up myself and got more stable in my career and who I was as a person, my desire for kids decreased.
So, we had a kid. And then nothing turned out how I expected. Awful pregnancy, horrible fourth trimester, debilitating sleep deprivation (and a kid who still doesn’t sleep great), expensive unreliable daycare, no help, and being the parent 90% of the time is just not how I expected it all to be. I also have a child who is very high energy and active and requires 100% monitoring all the time.
It’s exhausting, overwhelming, thankless and relentless. Despite loving the heck out of my child, there are still many times where I miss my life before having a kid.