I ( 50 f) have a daughter ( 27 ) that has been helping me and I don't know how to feel about it.

[josephtheprotector]

@steven992 Yes, this is a good idea. And I'd never demand anything from anyone. You are right, I should not feel guilty. I'll continue checking in with her and communicating. Thank you so much.

 

[dinofinney]

@josephtheprotector It's something that happens to a lot of families. Maybe it's happening to you a little sooner, but at least you seem well placed to accept the help. My own parents are getting on (mid/late 60s) but they've been able bodied their whole lives and aren't ready to accept that their age is starting to catch up to them. So sometimes they need help, or they can't help me in the way they'd like (for example, I don't think my mom can lift my 30lb toddler out of her crib, even if we were seeing them in person these days) but they don't want to accept that reality.

I think as long as you appreciate your daughter, and try to help her achieve her other goals in life, this is great. She clearly loves you, which makes you a lucky woman.

 

[josephtheprotector]

@dinofinney Thank you . and I'm very very lucky. I appreciate her so much.

Edit: hit save too soon. Yes it is earlier than expected and i think that is what bothers me the most. I SHOULDN'T need help, but I do.

 

[kbkxnightmare]

@josephtheprotector My mother is and always has been wonderful to me and anytime I can do something for her I feel good about it. I want to make her life easier because I remember how hard she fought for that for me. You raised a loving child and she wants to repay the favor. Enjoy the time together!

 

[josephtheprotector]

@kbkxnightmare Thank you. I'm so glad for your perspective on this. And she does feel good doing things for me. I'll do more to relax my brain, accept and enjoy.

 

[katrina2017]

@josephtheprotector Can you hire a home health aide, either through your insurance or privately, to help with some of the stuff she does so she doesn't feel like she needs to do it?

 

[josephtheprotector]

@katrina2017 Oh hey.... That's a good idea. I'm working with a vocational rehab that does things like this. I'll look into that! Thank you!!