hischild1002
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TLDR: we’ve tried EVERYTHING and baby will not be sleep trained. WTF AM I DOING WRONG?! HELP!
My baby is a week away from being 6 months old. This is my first and baby was born on their due date but was very small (5lb 13oz) and needed tube feeding in NICU her first night and we fed her donor milk until my supply came in.
Until recently baby has always fallen asleep in our arms or on our chests, it nursing on a bottle while being held.
The last month and a half I’ve tried the pick up/out down method, the chair method, the Ferber method, the fading method and we are now on night 6 of the cry it out method. NONE OF THEM HAVE WORKED or resulted in any improvement- I’ve been on the phone with multiple mom friends that did these methods so they can talk me through it and make sure I’m following the method correctly, encourage me, help me make judgement calls, and distract me from the literal ache in my body I get from hearing my LO cry. Some have even done breathing exercises with me on the phone to help me stay calm. These ladies are AMAZING, but now we are all completely stumped as my baby isn’t responding to ANY of the methods despite following them to the letter.
I absolutely A-D-O-R-E my sweet baby, but hubby and I physically cannot do it anymore waking up every 3 hours at night to feed baby and wait until baby falls asleep and then pray to all the gods known to man that baby will stay asleep when we lay baby down in the crib. When she’s awake during the day, she drinks 4-6oz every 3 hours. At night she drinks 1-3oz. We have tried adding new sleep associations and then removing the old ones we don’t want and she hated that and didn’t take to it AT ALL.
Bedtime routine: pour her bath & make a bottle
turn lights off in living areas
Undress for bath
Bathe her 10-15 minutes.
Dry off, apply lotion and massage.
Put diaper and pajamas on
Grab bottle, sit on couch and feed
Lay her down for sleep in crib with white nose, door shut, blackout curtains.
What am I doing wrong here? We’re both desperate for sleep and need it for safety at our jobs. What do I do? What do I try next? The pediatrician has nothing to say that will help us. I’m going on a trip with baby and she will be 7.5 months at the time and hubby cannot come with me. I need to figure this out well before then if I’m to have any hope of surviving it. Again-please help!?
My baby is a week away from being 6 months old. This is my first and baby was born on their due date but was very small (5lb 13oz) and needed tube feeding in NICU her first night and we fed her donor milk until my supply came in.
Until recently baby has always fallen asleep in our arms or on our chests, it nursing on a bottle while being held.
The last month and a half I’ve tried the pick up/out down method, the chair method, the Ferber method, the fading method and we are now on night 6 of the cry it out method. NONE OF THEM HAVE WORKED or resulted in any improvement- I’ve been on the phone with multiple mom friends that did these methods so they can talk me through it and make sure I’m following the method correctly, encourage me, help me make judgement calls, and distract me from the literal ache in my body I get from hearing my LO cry. Some have even done breathing exercises with me on the phone to help me stay calm. These ladies are AMAZING, but now we are all completely stumped as my baby isn’t responding to ANY of the methods despite following them to the letter.
I absolutely A-D-O-R-E my sweet baby, but hubby and I physically cannot do it anymore waking up every 3 hours at night to feed baby and wait until baby falls asleep and then pray to all the gods known to man that baby will stay asleep when we lay baby down in the crib. When she’s awake during the day, she drinks 4-6oz every 3 hours. At night she drinks 1-3oz. We have tried adding new sleep associations and then removing the old ones we don’t want and she hated that and didn’t take to it AT ALL.
Bedtime routine: pour her bath & make a bottle
turn lights off in living areas
Undress for bath
Bathe her 10-15 minutes.
Dry off, apply lotion and massage.
Put diaper and pajamas on
Grab bottle, sit on couch and feed
Lay her down for sleep in crib with white nose, door shut, blackout curtains.
What am I doing wrong here? We’re both desperate for sleep and need it for safety at our jobs. What do I do? What do I try next? The pediatrician has nothing to say that will help us. I’m going on a trip with baby and she will be 7.5 months at the time and hubby cannot come with me. I need to figure this out well before then if I’m to have any hope of surviving it. Again-please help!?