Help me please, before I lose my ever loving mind. Read full post!

[maldavos]

@amayasasaki Going through this right now. Adjust her bedtime to 630 so that she's actually sleeping by 7-730. She will fall asleep faster if she's not overtired.

Also tell her your leaving the room to go do xyz . Example, I'll be right back to check on you, mommy has to go pee. Lay down and close your eyes ill be right back. And keep going back and checking and telling her you're doing things and she will get bored and fall asleep in the meantime. I read this trick on here and it works 50% of the time for us

 

[emojigirl]

@amayasasaki Tbh I don’t even try before 8:30 anymore…9 seems to be the new time

 

[vstroud]

@amayasasaki No advice just solidarity. My 3.5 year old fell asleep at 9 last night and woke up at 5 am. A whole 8 hours just like a dang adult. Heck I like 9 hours. She doesn’t really nap either. Last one was a week ago. Whyyyy.

 

[bigadolph420]

@amayasasaki Ignore the demands

 

[chy]

@amayasasaki A visual schedule helped my daughter. Folded a piece of card stock in half long ways and cut strips along the top half. On the bottom half I wrote her routine one at a time so for us it was “snack”, “potty”, “bath”, “pajamas”, “brush teeth”, “read stories”, “turn off light”, “kiss goodnight”. On each flap and on the bottom half was Velcro so as she did each thing she would close the flap and the front would say something like “you did it!” “Great job!” Etc .. it helped her a lot to accomplish her routine

 

[cadvad]

@amayasasaki I literally pretend to be asleep next to toddler. He tries physically lifting my eyelids, talking sometimes yelling at me, but eventually just turns over and goes to bed. Also I notice if he doesn't get EVERY LAST BIT OF ENERGY OUT, he has a much harder time falling asleep. I have to actually run my Toddler, haha, no but really, I will make him chase a ball if I have to...

 

[sergepb]

@amayasasaki Is she refusing to go to sleep, or is it a rebellion against the whole bedtime?

 

[amayasasaki]

@sergepb She's quite keen to go bath, get in bed etc, and then the stall begins.

 

[sergepb]

@amayasasaki Ah, it sounds like a classic case of 10 mins of mama/dad and then leave. My son tries everything to stall, but once we are firm that we are done and leaving, he rolls over and goes to sleep.

You can start easy by moving farther and farther from her bed, so you are waiting on the other side of the room to lessen the shock.

 

[jjmeis]

@amayasasaki Was in a similar situation, my son only started sleeping after we moved out

 

[pinkangel175]

@amayasasaki Maybe a glow in the dark night stuffy? Amazon has LED ones that turn off after 15 minutes. That helped my kids. My kids “read” their books and lay down. By the time the 15 minutes passes they are already asleep.

 

[colada]

@amayasasaki We had this at about 2.5 years, we had it all so we bought her a cup with a straw of water beside her bed, she still wears pull-ups over night so after one trip to the loo, it was OK, go in the nappy then. We'd have last cuddle and last kiss of the night, saying this is the last cuddle etc. Then don't need to sleep but do need to lay quietly in bed, you can have music on quietly but must be laying quietly. Either me or my husband will stay in the room until she's asleep, if she messes about we leave the room, if she continues the door gets shut. Go back after a minute or so, doesn't take long and she will lay quietly then. If she would speak we would simply say night, night. She's pretty much out of it now, will only play up every few weeks but it's usually because she's knackered.

 

[simply_me1229]

@amayasasaki I think they all stall. Mine does too. It’s a similar routine except bedtime is 9-9:30. Today will be past 10 because she has a cold and I let her sleep as long as she wanted.

She knows I check in on her a few minutes after I put her down and then I don’t return. So she’ll stall and then she knows it’s bedtime. Takes an extra 10 minutes but worth it, to avoid overstimulation and adrenaline dumps if I don’t check in on her.

Let grandparents do bedtime if they’re so wise. They’ll shut up about it after a few nights.

Good luck!

 

[hankjensen]

@amayasasaki I’m in a similar situation and thinking about training my 3 year old to fall asleep on his own but my question is how do you prevent a kid from jumping out of bed and running out the door after you once you leave the room?

 

[jimdubu]

@hankjensen We use a doorknob cover. I’ve heard it’s a red flag for cps, but I’m confident that won’t affect our lives, and before that she was screaming and crying and getting physical trying to run past me. I can’t imagine that simply not being able to open the door is more traumatizing than that. We tried a gate, she pushed it down in no time.

 

[hankjensen]

@jimdubu Thanks for the idea!

 

[tyke29]

@amayasasaki I just want to say I’m glad I’m not the only one and I’ve got a 6 and 3 yo who both want me to sit with them before bed. So just tuck into bedtime takes me roughly an hour. Every night. I love my kiddos but it sucks.

 

[puddintain]

@amayasasaki

Then we're thirsty, then we want to go potty (every 2 f**king minutes), then we want daddy, then mommy again)

If she gets out of bed just go and take her back to bed, go "It's time to sleep, good night" then leave the room. My kid does this for about 5-10 minutes every night then gives up because it doesn't work to stall bedtime. You need to remember she doesn't actually NEED any of the things she is saying, she's just trying out all of the different possible options that might work. Mine has tried being thirsty, being hungry, wanting daddy, wanting to kiss her sister and needing a specific stuffed animal, all requests are met with "It's time to sleep, good night".

 

[equran]

@puddintain Omg the "wanting to kiss her sister" part is so damn relatable My wife used to sleep in our kids' room to help our oldest transition (she'd fall out of bed in the middle of the night because she'd roll around in her sleep looking for someone to cuddle) and when I'd go in to say goodnight to everyone my older one would make DAMN sure that I gave everyone the proper goodnight kisses. Her, mommy, and sissy all needed a kiss on each cheek and on the lips. If I forgot, she'd let me know I drew the line when she started insisting that someone needed a kiss on a random body part before it could be time for bed. This eventually transitioned to we all had to give night night kisses before the littler one went into her pack and play for the night or else our older one would be hysterical and would climb into her sisters pack and play the first chance she got (usually waking her up) because "sissy needs her night night kiss!" It's was very sweet, but at the same time, it was like damn kid. Everyone is trying to go to sleep. Please just chill and go to bed.

 

[puddintain]

@equran Haha, to be fair she usually does kiss her sister good night but she was asleep and I wasn't gonna move a 2 month old for a kiss