@furiouscat4323 My inlaws want us to visit ‘more often’ so our baby can ‘be familiar with our house when she stays for a week’. First of all they maybe visited once a month and just for an hour or two. We visited them twice so far. Baby doesn’t even recognize them and cried our most recent visit cause she viewed them as strangers. Second, I would never leave her there for a week ever regardless of her age (6 months now). Grandpa is verbally abuse to grandma therbwhole lives. When my husband was born, she went back to work TWO weeks later. Boy yes they did f’ up. Our pediatrician actually had us fill out a questionnaire if we had been abused or neglected as kids, it does reflect in your parenting. My mom says crying is good for babies, im sure she did CIO with me. I have nonself esteem either growing up constantly being compared to others. Even now she says I am spoiling my baby. It just never ends.