aswesing941
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My baby is 9 days old, and yesterday we finally decided to try a baby carrier.
I agonized over whether or not to use a wrap or structured carrier- and we decided to try and start with a soft structured Infantino Unison.
I love the soft fabric and how close my baby is to me, and that the carrier can fit into my diaper bag when I'm not using it. I also love that the carrier will fit my husband with only minimal adjustments.
Here is My dilemma:
The first being that my mother is critical of baby wearing in general. She says its an unnecessary fad and doesn't see the point- she's mentioned that his positioning looks "weird" and "uncomfortable" at best- which makes a FTM mom like me second guess EVERYTHING.
This leads to the second issue:
I'm very large chested. The straps sit directly under my breasts in order to have my son "kissably close" - and he is that close, but I worry that my breasts might be making it hard for my son to breathe.
I could have swore I heard him making almost a wheezing sound when we tried it out- and my nervous FTM meter almost tapped out over it!
He doesn't stop breathing- (I kept my hand on his back, and kept leaning down to listen to him in order to check) How do I know he's getting enough air and that my breasts aren't making it hard for him to breathe?
As far as his leg positioning goes- This is something I've wanted to try since we found out I was pregnant- so I've ready countless articles about the "M" leg positioning and making sure that baby's nose and mouth aren't obstructed by the carrier. When I first put him in the Infantino carrier, as far as I could tell his legs were NOT hanging in a "V" shape, but the "M" shape was not as pronounced (his knees are bent- but I can't tell if they sit higher than his little bum).
I have no idea what I'm doing- but I'm determined to make sure it's right!
I decided to try asking the pros (aka- you guys!) if there seems to be any red flags- or if I'm just being overly cautious.
Please help- I'm close to taking this carrier back!
Thanks for reading
EDIT: A picture for reference
I agonized over whether or not to use a wrap or structured carrier- and we decided to try and start with a soft structured Infantino Unison.
I love the soft fabric and how close my baby is to me, and that the carrier can fit into my diaper bag when I'm not using it. I also love that the carrier will fit my husband with only minimal adjustments.
Here is My dilemma:
The first being that my mother is critical of baby wearing in general. She says its an unnecessary fad and doesn't see the point- she's mentioned that his positioning looks "weird" and "uncomfortable" at best- which makes a FTM mom like me second guess EVERYTHING.
This leads to the second issue:
I'm very large chested. The straps sit directly under my breasts in order to have my son "kissably close" - and he is that close, but I worry that my breasts might be making it hard for my son to breathe.
I could have swore I heard him making almost a wheezing sound when we tried it out- and my nervous FTM meter almost tapped out over it!
He doesn't stop breathing- (I kept my hand on his back, and kept leaning down to listen to him in order to check) How do I know he's getting enough air and that my breasts aren't making it hard for him to breathe?
As far as his leg positioning goes- This is something I've wanted to try since we found out I was pregnant- so I've ready countless articles about the "M" leg positioning and making sure that baby's nose and mouth aren't obstructed by the carrier. When I first put him in the Infantino carrier, as far as I could tell his legs were NOT hanging in a "V" shape, but the "M" shape was not as pronounced (his knees are bent- but I can't tell if they sit higher than his little bum).
I have no idea what I'm doing- but I'm determined to make sure it's right!
I decided to try asking the pros (aka- you guys!) if there seems to be any red flags- or if I'm just being overly cautious.
Please help- I'm close to taking this carrier back!
Thanks for reading
EDIT: A picture for reference