michaelwayne57
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We’ve been trying to conceive for about a year now with 4 early losses between 4-7 weeks.
My husband (34M) has gotten his SA results (other than morphology) and it is quite bad. His sperm concentration (15 mil/ml) and motility (40%) are both low and rapid progressive motility is extremely low (4%). While some men may have poor sperm due to genetic factors or unavoidable environmental factors, this is likely not the case with my husband.
My husband is not very healthy at all and doesn’t want to improve his health. He is obese (gained about 40 lbs since we had our first), sedentary (works a desk job, with lots of breaks but doesn’t go for a walk during breaks), eats very poorly (a lot of processed red meat like bacon, sausages, ham, lots of carbs and sugar), and refuses to take supplements (e.g male prenatal, CoQ-10) even with constant reminders. He also gets stressed out easily even for the smallest things (like he can’t even drive for 5 minutes in low traffic without cussing at other drivers). He was also a previously heavy drinker and marijuana user (now thankfully agreed to reduce during TTC). He has a very low libido and I literally need to beg him for us to BD during my FW, otherwise we could go weeks/months without BD.
It’s beyond frustrating because I’ve done so much healthwise for TTC purposes. I cut down my carbs and sugar significantly, so much so that my A1C dropped from 5.2 to 4.8. I’ve increased my consumption of dark leafy greens and berries. I make sure to walk everyday. I take my concoction of egg quality supplements (Omega 3, CoQ-10, NAC). I see a therapist to help manage stress and keep myself level-headed. I go to an acupuncturist to help balance my hormones and reduce stress. I haven’t had a drink or consumed marijuana in months.
My RE suspects our issue is sperm/male factor related, as my AMH (4.5 ng/ml) and AFC (27) are both high end of normal and optimal, and my FSH is low end of normal and optimal (6.8) and in his experience, since I don’t have PCOS or Endo, that both my egg quantity and also egg quality are likely very good. I’m already doing everything I can to improve my egg quality but my husband has done absolutely nothing to improve sperm quality or quantity. He does not seem interested in the TTC process at all - I’ve literally had to drag him to appointments and it took him months to complete a SA, meanwhile I’ve gotten all my tests done (which are much more extensive and invasive) months ago.
My husband (34M) has gotten his SA results (other than morphology) and it is quite bad. His sperm concentration (15 mil/ml) and motility (40%) are both low and rapid progressive motility is extremely low (4%). While some men may have poor sperm due to genetic factors or unavoidable environmental factors, this is likely not the case with my husband.
My husband is not very healthy at all and doesn’t want to improve his health. He is obese (gained about 40 lbs since we had our first), sedentary (works a desk job, with lots of breaks but doesn’t go for a walk during breaks), eats very poorly (a lot of processed red meat like bacon, sausages, ham, lots of carbs and sugar), and refuses to take supplements (e.g male prenatal, CoQ-10) even with constant reminders. He also gets stressed out easily even for the smallest things (like he can’t even drive for 5 minutes in low traffic without cussing at other drivers). He was also a previously heavy drinker and marijuana user (now thankfully agreed to reduce during TTC). He has a very low libido and I literally need to beg him for us to BD during my FW, otherwise we could go weeks/months without BD.
It’s beyond frustrating because I’ve done so much healthwise for TTC purposes. I cut down my carbs and sugar significantly, so much so that my A1C dropped from 5.2 to 4.8. I’ve increased my consumption of dark leafy greens and berries. I make sure to walk everyday. I take my concoction of egg quality supplements (Omega 3, CoQ-10, NAC). I see a therapist to help manage stress and keep myself level-headed. I go to an acupuncturist to help balance my hormones and reduce stress. I haven’t had a drink or consumed marijuana in months.
My RE suspects our issue is sperm/male factor related, as my AMH (4.5 ng/ml) and AFC (27) are both high end of normal and optimal, and my FSH is low end of normal and optimal (6.8) and in his experience, since I don’t have PCOS or Endo, that both my egg quantity and also egg quality are likely very good. I’m already doing everything I can to improve my egg quality but my husband has done absolutely nothing to improve sperm quality or quantity. He does not seem interested in the TTC process at all - I’ve literally had to drag him to appointments and it took him months to complete a SA, meanwhile I’ve gotten all my tests done (which are much more extensive and invasive) months ago.
if he already realizes how important this is to you then I’m not sure what else you can do.