Formula Feeding
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@emann A lot of moms do feel guilt. Is it normal? That's a difficult one to answer.
I think social media, some health authorities, brands, etc. causes a lot of moms to feel unwarranted guilt. I bet you know before the internet, moms just did whatever was best for their baby without feeling guilty.
I chose to EFF because I did not want to breastfeed. I have not felt one ounce of guilt for my decision because I know formula has been developed to give all the necessary nutrients to my baby.
I firmly believe that fed is best and the origin of the milk has no bearing on this.
But, as I said at the start, a lot of moms feel guilt and you only have to search 'guilt' on this subreddit to see this. But, you will also see all the FF moms reassuring these moms of their decision
I think social media, some health authorities, brands, etc. causes a lot of moms to feel unwarranted guilt. I bet you know before the internet, moms just did whatever was best for their baby without feeling guilty.
I chose to EFF because I did not want to breastfeed. I have not felt one ounce of guilt for my decision because I know formula has been developed to give all the necessary nutrients to my baby.
I firmly believe that fed is best and the origin of the milk has no bearing on this.
But, as I said at the start, a lot of moms feel guilt and you only have to search 'guilt' on this subreddit to see this. But, you will also see all the FF moms reassuring these moms of their decision
liveandlaugh
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lovelyhipopp
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@emann Having guilty feelings is normal but not necessary. I EFF after 2 weeks. It was hard for a while but I’ve embraced the flexibility it’s given us and my little guy is thriving. Breastfeeding is portrayed as this miracle for everything. It has benefits but isn’t everyone’s path and I believe that a healthy loving household is the most important thing. It sounds like your daughter has that!
@emann I exclusively formula fed and never felt guilty about it. I knew I probably wouldn't be able to bf and I'm glad I wasn't able to in the hospital. It sounds like a nightmare from what I hear (and saw) other women going through.
When my son was a baby and husband was on paternity leave we slept in shifts and each got to sleep for 6-7 hours a day, and we always knew how many oz baby was getting and when it was time to increase oz. It was heavenly to have everything so controlled and simple.
When my son was a baby and husband was on paternity leave we slept in shifts and each got to sleep for 6-7 hours a day, and we always knew how many oz baby was getting and when it was time to increase oz. It was heavenly to have everything so controlled and simple.
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michele9618
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@emann It's a common experience but in reality there is nothing to feel guilty about.
If formula is helping to make sure your baby eats sufficiently or makes your job easier then it's objectively a good choice.
A lot of us here actually regret not embracing formula sooner because we eventually realized one or both of the parties involved hadn't been thriving with breastfeeding.
If formula is helping to make sure your baby eats sufficiently or makes your job easier then it's objectively a good choice.
A lot of us here actually regret not embracing formula sooner because we eventually realized one or both of the parties involved hadn't been thriving with breastfeeding.
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angelique00
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@emann Omgosh girl, you are NOT ALONE.
With my daughter I tried. I really did. No milk for 2 weeks led me to madness. When I got pregnant with my son I told everyone not to buy me breastfeeding stuff. I was planning on trying without the pressure I had with my daughter, but circumstances changed, and he never got a single drop from my breast.
Both my kids were big when they were born, both of them have grown like weeds with formula. But that didn't stop the guilt and shame. With my son because it's more recently it hurts. Even yesterday he was hungry and I was holding him, his mouth was right by my breast and he started trying to latch. It tore me apart. I started crying and was basically inconsolable the rest of the afternoon.
Since I've been through this before I promise it gets better. My daughter is 10 now. She's at the top of her class. She's extremely healthy, she never gets sick like at all. And she's a VERY happy kid. Even if she struggled in school and wasn't as healthy, she is HAPPY.
By the time they are her age nobody cares if you were breastfed or not. It stops mattering. By then there will be new things to have mom guilt over. It's never ending, but this will pass. You're doing a great job and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
With my daughter I tried. I really did. No milk for 2 weeks led me to madness. When I got pregnant with my son I told everyone not to buy me breastfeeding stuff. I was planning on trying without the pressure I had with my daughter, but circumstances changed, and he never got a single drop from my breast.
Both my kids were big when they were born, both of them have grown like weeds with formula. But that didn't stop the guilt and shame. With my son because it's more recently it hurts. Even yesterday he was hungry and I was holding him, his mouth was right by my breast and he started trying to latch. It tore me apart. I started crying and was basically inconsolable the rest of the afternoon.
Since I've been through this before I promise it gets better. My daughter is 10 now. She's at the top of her class. She's extremely healthy, she never gets sick like at all. And she's a VERY happy kid. Even if she struggled in school and wasn't as healthy, she is HAPPY.
By the time they are her age nobody cares if you were breastfed or not. It stops mattering. By then there will be new things to have mom guilt over. It's never ending, but this will pass. You're doing a great job and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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serpentofdoom
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@emann I EFF and I found I only felt guilt because of outside factors, otherwise I think I would have been fine. My child is now almost 2 and thriving and my next baby will be EFF too. You do you. You’re doing nothing wrong. And as far as the bonding thing goes - my kid would crawl back up into my stomach if they could 