@jackstack Pretty normal, and a good idea to help avoid attachment issues later on
Are sleepovers at Grandparents normal for children 1 - 2 years old
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@jackstack That seems normal AF
jesusluvr665
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@jackstack Is it normal? You can’t base a personal choice on such a broad assumption. If you have trustworthy grandparents, go for it. If you don’t, no.
My kid has both sets of gparents nearby and he’s been napping over there since 15mo and has had over a dozen overnights and then even a 10 day stay when my husband and I went on a trip.
Would I do that if I felt uncomfortable? Heck no.
Is your wife uncomfortable with the idea but using “it’s not normal” as the excuse? Try to dig deeper. Respect her wishes. But having involved and trustworthy grandparents is a HUGE perk and is how most of society worked throughout history.
My kid has both sets of gparents nearby and he’s been napping over there since 15mo and has had over a dozen overnights and then even a 10 day stay when my husband and I went on a trip.
Would I do that if I felt uncomfortable? Heck no.
Is your wife uncomfortable with the idea but using “it’s not normal” as the excuse? Try to dig deeper. Respect her wishes. But having involved and trustworthy grandparents is a HUGE perk and is how most of society worked throughout history.
@jackstack Haha my kids been sleeping over grandparents regularly since they were around 3 months old.
@jackstack Does grandma feel overwhelmed, does she enjoy it, is she trustworthy and responsible? If these are all green, I say take advantage.
We have a tradition that the kids spend a week at grandma's every year. Also, when they were small, they went over to grandma's all the time.
We have a tradition that the kids spend a week at grandma's every year. Also, when they were small, they went over to grandma's all the time.
@jackstack if the grandparents are to be trusted it is very normal and wonderful for everyone involved. children profit a lot from a strong bond with their grandparents. and honestly, it soothes my mind knowing that my kid is already used to staying at /with their grandparents, in case i need to be hospitalized or whatever etc. my kids will be fine.
iamunworthy
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@jackstack My kid started having sleepovers with my parents and my partner’s mum at probably 18-24 months, can’t remember exactly. Basically as soon as she started sleeping through the night. She has a sleepover once a week. It’s fantastic - she has a great time, has a great relationship with her grandparents, and we get some great time off.
aimingforheaven
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@jackstack My son started doing occasional sleepovers at 6 months with both sets of grandparents. I would say he spends the night with a set of grandparents every 30 to 45 days or so at this point.
It'll probably be a little more often as he gets older and requests sleepovers.
I honestly just wouldn't want to overwhelm Grandma in your case, since she provides care during the day too. In our case, the grandparents who don't watch him as often during the week due to work schedules are the ones who do overnights more often. And they're offering/wanting to do them, not us asking.
It'll probably be a little more often as he gets older and requests sleepovers.
I honestly just wouldn't want to overwhelm Grandma in your case, since she provides care during the day too. In our case, the grandparents who don't watch him as often during the week due to work schedules are the ones who do overnights more often. And they're offering/wanting to do them, not us asking.
@jackstack It's very common, my 2 year stays with his grandparents at least once a month
@jackstack That's been the norm in my household since my oldest was about 2...every 2 weeks or so. Sometimes they'll stay the entire weekend. I love it. You need some time to yourselves.....but only if you both agree.
@jackstack For most of human history this has been the norm. We have to remember that kids being raised only by their parents is a very recent occurrence and isn't the norm in other cultures.
We have our boy stay with his grandparents one night a week since he was 6 month old and it's great for everyone but especially my son.
We have our boy stay with his grandparents one night a week since he was 6 month old and it's great for everyone but especially my son.
shadowcat007
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@jackstack Yes, providing the grandparents are fully capable of caring for them.
@jackstack Absolutely. My son started staying over with my parents at 7 or 8 months. Now at 2yrs old he goes over any chance he gets when my nephew is there.
warriorbrideofchrist
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@jackstack If you don't do it early, you'll always be reluctant.
We did it early on for both of ours and they still stay over randomly (ages 2 and 5)
We did it early on for both of ours and they still stay over randomly (ages 2 and 5)
@jackstack If grandparents are happy to have him, then it’s ok. Maybe it’s your wife that is not quite happy for him to go. And that’s ok too.
stpmom4433
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@jackstack Totally normal
My kids sleep over with grandparents every couple months, would be more but they work weekends and nights
My kids sleep over with grandparents every couple months, would be more but they work weekends and nights
justhappeneduponthis
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@jackstack Yeah, my MIL takes my kids maybe once every other month for a sleepover, been that way since my kids were sleeping through the night and off the tit.
@jackstack My 2.5 year old stays 2 hours away at his grandparents every few months, usually one night with us one night without 
@jackstack Totally normal. Does he nap there already during babysitting? If so, you already know he can go to sleep there just fine.
If not, try going with some naps first before doing an overnight. Work up to the overnight after your wife has normalized the idea of him sleeping there.
If not, try going with some naps first before doing an overnight. Work up to the overnight after your wife has normalized the idea of him sleeping there.
gambittheintellectual
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@jackstack My 14 month old spent one night at her nanas when we went to a wedding but maybe it’s a bit different because she goes to her nanas 5 days a week while we work instead of going to a random day care.